Something about the lyrics made me reflect.

I’ve never loved someone just the way they were.  If anything, I’ve loved someone in spite of who they are. No matter how large or small there was always something about them I wish they’d change.

Note I didn’t say “I’d change”. The key to polishing up your boo is to get them to make the change themselves, like it was their idea. Flattery works most of the time:

“Baby, you look really nice with your Unabomber beard shaved off.”

“Honey, I really love it when you wear clothes that make you look your age and not like a thug.”

“You look so sexy when you wash the dishes.”

Another Jedi mind trick is leading by example.

You want your boo to lose the gut, you start working out and watch them get motivated when everyone is complimenting you and trying to scoop you away. Ladies, another great trick with men regarding weight loss: “Babe, I read somewhere that men gain 1-inch of penis for every 25 lbs they lose. You might have 3-inches up in there.”

If you feel this way about your mate, chances are they feel the same way about you. Men handle it differently though. Whatever it is they hate about you they usually hold it in until they can’t take it anymore. Then one day, when you’re telling him about himself his response is going to shock you to speechlessness.  He hates your cooking, your friends, your mother, your hair, your oral sex…

Total acceptance doesn’t exist.

Tyler Perry had something when he wrote about the “80-20″ theory. You have to find someone whose good out weighs the bad. Then you tell yourself, over and over again how good you have it whenever they do something that you don’t like.

“I hate it when he pees on the toilet seat, but at least he acknowledges me in public.”

…Says The Single Girl

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