I was listening to The Wendy Williams radio show when the topic of “Should You Look Through Your Partners Phone/E-mail” came up. The woman sitting in for Wendy said she’d been married for 12 years but still looks through her man’s phone and e-mail accounts. All the men in the studio disagreed. The callers were split down the middle. Of course, those supporting checking your partner’s stuff were women.

I don’t think you should snoop through your boo’s phone/e-mail because once you get a taste you’ll always be looking for a fix. Never a day goes by where you’re not wondering what’s in their text messages or who they’ve been e-mailing back and forth with all night.

IMO, relationships are about trust and without trust you have nothing. But don’t take it from me. Check out what my Tweeps has to say on the matter.  (This is why I love my Twitter Fam…)

1. Jenniebug88 Hell naw. My boyfriend be on that detective shit and one time he found something in my phone that hurt his feelings.

2. MNJones only wife, husband should because u 2 r n vowed 2 b as one so if one picks up and looks shouldn’t b a problem. if 2 people can share everything looking at phones and emails should b no different but only n marriage. in reality people in commited relationships do it cause they want 2 make sure partner is tellin da truth and being commited

3. courtneymariek no…cause if you go looking for something and you find it how will you react? Nobody told you to look for it…

   
   

4. mslayla25 trying to hide behind texts and lies. I always catch em in a trap. You can’t fool somebody that knows & plays the game well

   
   

5. VIXEN01 hell no in my opinion that’s violating my privacy … if their trust what are you looking for?

   
   

6. mslayla25 I think so. When you’re in a relationship you should be able to trust the other half. But sometimes they tend to be sneaky

   
   

7. candireign husband or not both of you should still have your privacy?! Why am I married to you if we don’t trust each other?

8. kokoesquire I don’t see why its necessary, the msgs aren’t for them. If they ask me to review the files, its a red flag of insecurity unless I’m technology deprived and ask them to check for me.

9. likno1uvevacen no, that shd never b allowed. Either you trust ur partner or you don’t & if you don’t, that’s a whole other issue!

The recession is in full swing, which means the dating game is being forced to reinvent itself. No more wining and dining. Instead, more talking and casual meet ups.

Now that the economy is done to crap, will you rethink your criteria for a mate? I took it to my TWEEPS and got some interesting answers.

Would you date someone who is unemployed?

“I started dating someone not working. It depends on how U feel about the person. I knew him from work & knew situation.” – Prettymegirl

“I wouldn’t seriously date someone with no drive or motivation. With that being said, if they were actively looking for work I’d consider it.” – blackbarbie86

“It depends. Are they doing anything to get a job or change directions? Find a job quickly also depends on job prior to lay off, this is survival & I wuld cut dead weight when it compromises me.” – tracyreneejones

“YIKES! I’m not a patient person.=(“ – singleinatlanta

“There are different levels of unemployment, a lawyer between firms who got a golden handshake or someone marginal? If HIS unemployment becomes MY financial burden and we are only dating, it’s highly doubtful that our love would last. not for nothing but most men i know go into a man cave when their money is funny and they need some alone time” – mzahmad

“It depends on if he’s actively looking or being lazy! A friend’s bf would only job hunt between 9am-12pm each day. No thanks!” – WenD75

Your Thoughts?

- STSG