I just don’t have it in me to talk about Chris Brown/Rihanna. Queen Mother and Lady Baby Hair are tackling that topic today. I’ve never been abused…ever. I have friends who’ve had the sh*t shaken out of them. They look back and laugh at it like, “Yeah, I was wildin’ out”. Although I’ve never had a man lay hands on me (in a bad way) I have had dudes crush my ego. Yes, I’m talking about REJECTION.

From a very young age girls are taught that we have the power to attract the opposite sex with a smile, a sparkle in our eye and soft words. By the time we become teenagers we get a sense of how powerful the kit kat is. Then, when adulthood swings around years of getting your way gives women a false sense of security. 

“How dare a man tell me no!”

“What’s wrong with him that he doesn’t want this?”

The first time I was rejected happened in elementary school.  There was this boy named Herbert and he was the cat’s meow in my eye. We were in the 4th grade and he was a man to us–the biggest boy in our class, his voice already changed and he had a juicy butt. We girls would take turns smacking it. One day my friend passed him a note from me (remember notes, oh it was so easy then). It simply said “I likes you. Do you like me?” 

He never responded.

I took it with a grain of salt and grabbed his ass even harder from then on.

Men get rejected every single day. Each “No” builds up tolerance and makes them stronger. 

Women get rejected once every six months. Each “No” takes them one step closer to lesbianism. 

I think more women should be outright rejected. Think of it this way: It’s better to not waste your time at all then go on a sympathy date (he takes you out knowing fully well he isn’t interested but wants to see what he can get out of you), telling your friends about this cool guy you met, sleeping with him, wanting to get serious and he pull away.

The next time you’re at a bar, lounge, etc and spot a guy you think is cute saunter over and smile. Introduce yourself and get a feel for the gentleman. Navigate the conversation without being overbearing. Learn how to flirt without stuffing your panties in his mouth. The more you step outside of yourself the more comfortable you will be and whether or not he asks to see you again it doesn’t feel like a dagger in the heart but rather a mosquito bite. 

Rejection builds character. 

TIP: Ladies, if you approach a man and he doesn’t ask for your phone number…You’ve been REJECTED.

- Says The Single Girl