It’s not that we want to know we are smarter than our boo, we just secretly want to think that we are.

I have this one girlfriend who only dates dumb guys. “They are easier to control,” she says. She trained, yes trained, on sorry sap to perm her hair. Every six weeks he’d willingly put on his plastic gloves and work the perm in her hair as she sat on a stool in her kitchen. She had another guy who argued with us during a game of Scrabble that the word “knife” did not start with a “k”. While the rest of the room gave her the screw face, she simply ignored him. When you purposely seek out a mate who is missing a few cards in their deck, what does that say about you?

Like my girlfriend said, it’s about control. Some people, smart or dumb, don’t want to be challenged. They want a partner who will go along with whatever they say. (We call these NBA wives, just kidding.)

If you aren’t the dumb one in the relationship, is it better knowing that the person you love isn’t too bright? Can you make it work despite their low I.Q.?

Not all dumb people are easy to spot. It usually take them working on a project, playing with a gadget, trying to master technology, filling out an application when you first catch a glimpse of their ineptness. You are shocked and disappointed. One of those moments was with the same “Cup of Tea” guy. For the life of him, he didn’t know how to e-mail using BCC. I would get e-mails with 200 other addresses on some chain letter type -ish. Finally, I told him. “You know, there is a way to e-mail without showing everyone’s e-mail address.”

“Really, I didn’t know that. Say, can you make me another cup of tea. Just the way I like it?”

Sigh.

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