Dear Single Girl,

I’ve been trying to figure out a way to write this scenario down without sounding too gross. My boyfriend loves when I please him below the belt. I use to like giving pleasure to men but that was before I got with him. He is huge and every time I go down I gag. A couple times I even threw up. Yes, all over him. I even think he liked it. I don’t want to stop giving him oral because we are in this relationship together and I believe in reciprocity. I could get away with giving him oral but it takes forever for him to come. I’m talking 20 minutes minimum. What’s a girl to do?

-  Not a Deep Throat

Dear Deep Not a Deep Throat,

I feel your pain. You want to show your BF you love pleasing him but you also don’t want to ruin your vocal cords. There is def a way to find peace with the matter. If your man can’t do without head let him have it but on the condition he can’t treat your pie hole like it’s your love canal. Normally, I wouldn’t support this but in this case DT you need to become a head hunter. Men hate head hunters but if you use both hands, wrapped around the body of the shaft while you address the top your man will feel the same sensation he would if your mouth was doing all the work. Tip: Make sure everything is super lubricated. You don’t want to give him rug burn with your dry ass hands. As you go up and down, your hands should be doing the same motion.

Now, if that isn’t enough try not giving him head on a full stomach. If you know your gag reflex is super sensitive you might have to build up a tolerance. Each time you take him go a litter further than you did before and right when you feel you are about to gag take a pause for the cause and let him rest in that one spot. During that pause your mind and mouth are adjusting and calming down from the initial “I want to throw up” urge.

Let’s direct the time. Twenty minutes of straight jaw action is a bit much. You know you can lock up. Try alternating: mouth, hands, breasts, repeat. While you give your jaw a break use your hands and tea bag him. If you have enough boobs to engulf him, go for it.

I hope this helps. And think about it this way: No man has ever left his GF cause she wouldn’t deep throat or suck him off for 20 mins.

- SG

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