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Recession Love: Let’s Shack Up
I always considered moving in with someone to be monumental. For starters I don’t really see myself living with a boo before marriage, possibly during an engagement but no sooner than that. Sure, couples move in together all the time; many of them with no intentions on getting wed. Still, I can’t downplay shacking up [...]
Jump Offs Exist (Even Essence.com Knows This)
I woke up this morning to learn that the internet was in an uproar (well just black women on the internet) over Essence.com’s new men’s blog It’s a Man’s World and its debut post “The Truth about Jump Offs” written by journalist/editor Jozen Cummings.
Jozen is a friend and told me about the post before it [...]
The 5 Steps to Marriage
During a very heated debate with Manny, we found ourselves trying to our damnedest to pin down the order in which people meet, date and marry.
After a couple drinks, some animated arguments, agreeing to disagree, here is what we came up with:
Step #1 – Dating
You’ve announced yourself as being in the market and proceed [...]
“My Boyfriend” vs “My Man”
Women who get hit on are often forced to answer the question:
“Are you single?”
To which you answer, whether its true or not:
“No, I have a boyfriend.”
Well, recently I gave that answer to a clearly older man whose comeback kinda left me stumped.
“That’s a problem. You got a boyfriend. What you need is a man. No [...]
Do You Share Your Toys?
Early on in most women’s sex life, they think the act of sex is limited to kissing, foreplay (oral but only she receives), missionary and doggy style. But after a couple years of playing the good girl and realizing that your needs aren’t being met because:
- He’s doing what he wants
- You don’t know your [...]
Married People Shouldn’t Give Dating Advice
People who are married kill me when they try to give dating advice.
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It’s like graduating high school ten years ago and coming back to your alma mater to tell the kids what it was like when you roamed those halls. All the teachers you had either died or retired. They renovated the classrooms. You’re favorite [...]
Are You Settling for a Black Man?
“I wonder if I should lower my standards and date a black man.”
No, this isn’t me playing devil’s advocate. This is a direct quote from a friend. She is beautiful, hella smart, body banging like a benzie and you guessed right…she’s single.
Her case is like most – she is single because she chooses to be, [...]
Whose Job Is It To Have Condoms?
On more than one occasion I’ve found myself hot and bothered but sexless because neither he nor I had condoms. In the heat of the moment what usually happens is you start up then pause to check if you have a condom on hand. Well, when you don’t your will is tested:
“Should I?”
“Just this once?”
“Nah, [...]
“Dear SG: Small Town Girls Have It Hard”
Dear SG,
I read the post ”Why You Can’t Find a Good Man“. As usual the information was on point. Unfortunately, the information didn’t apply to me for the simple fact that:
1 – I did not go to college
2 – I don’t have a big shot career, although I am independent and work for my family businesses.
I am [...]
Always a Boyfriend, Never a Husband
We always take pity upon women who are always the bridesmaid and never the bride. 27 dresses drove that point home. The chick was in love with her boss, who fell for her sister and ended up pushing away a guy who did like her (he was actually a reporter doing a story on her [...]
