Talk about double standards.

There are folks who are single, yearning to be coupled up yet scoff at the idea of dating a perfect candidate just because he or she has kids. When compared to women, men (well the ones who care) are adamantly opposed to women with kids. The baby mama can be beautiful, smart, accomplished, body banging like a benzy but once he finds out she’s given the gift of life all their hopes gets flushed down the drain.

I love my boys, gods know I do but I wanna kill ‘em dead when they get to talking -ish about how regardless of how good the woman is, if she has a child he’s gone.

One friend in particular takes the cake.

He is handsome, smart, talented and single. He wants to be in a relationship but can’t seem to stop meeting great prospects…with kids.

“Manny, how do you know God isn’t sending you a woman who has a child on purpose?”

“I know God very well, he knows what I want. SG, do you know what happens when men date a woman with kids. Six months into she’s thinking of ways to get us to marry her so her bastard child can have a daddy. She tells you to meet her somewhere to hang out. You get there and this trick is standing in front of her kids school with the spawn.”

“You really think women are that desperate?”

“Now, you know that answer to that. Hell yes. One woman, she had potential, but she gonna invite me over for dinner with her kid there. You think I want to sit at the table with her kid giving me the mean eye?”

“But Manny, maybe God wants you to be with a woman with a kid because he feels you have great father-figure qualities.”

“God is my good friend. He and I have not talked about sending me a woman with a certified used womb.”

Folks, this goes on for hours.

“Manny, let me ask you this: If Jesus can wife a whore, why can’t you wife a lady with a baby?”

Silence.

SG (reppin’ baby mamas) – 1

Manny (and all the men who would eff but never wife a Baby Mama) – 0

Women who don’t like dating baby daddies often times let it slide cause they know that most of the time the kid/s aren’t going to be in their face and the biggest problem they’ll have to deal with is a crazy baby mama. Baby daddies are much more manageable than baby mamas.

Men aren’t consumed with looking for a good woman to bring around their kids like women are with finding great replacement daddies for their kids.

I understand Manny’s concerns but I also don’t believe in cutting your nose to spite your face.

Baby mamas and daddies are people too, fertile people, but people none the less.

- SG

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