Comments on: Recession Love: Let’s Shack Up

By: Coren

Coren — Sun, 09 May 2010 14:51:24 +0000

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By: Fabulous Darling

Fabulous Darling — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 09:21:41 +0000

Very true!

After living with a guy for 6 years (no engagement – never mind marriage) I felt more like his mother than his g/friend.

My own space, became “our” space.
My daily routine was infiltrated with “his” routine.

Suffice to say, the enjoyment faded, the comfortableness set in and it was me who had to make the break.

Although I still think I would have to live with somebody before I married them? You can’t win can you! ha!

The jury is still out on this one for me…

Great blog!!!

By: DC Man with a Plan

DC Man with a Plan — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 14:33:00 +0000

We gotta stop this “why buy the cow” B/S bcuz it pre-supposses that a woman get’s NOTHING out of sexual intercourse. Y’all get a lot and many of you have been with dudes mostly bcuz of his sex work, so stop with the goodie too-shoes fairy tales. But I do think you should keep separate households. Moving in leaves NO where to run, no refuge. If we’re not married, I likely don’t want to see you every day…lol….bcuz, how else will I miss you? Having you’re own place, where you can do what you want without considering anyone else is PRICELESS–until you decide to get married……

By: chinaboricua

chinaboricua — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 02:18:07 +0000

WOW! Something to think about. My BF will be moving in with me next week. He got a contract to work in the city where I live. We met here on his last contract 9 months ago. We have maintained a great, though sexually frustrating, long distance relationship since he left 7 months ago. I guess this moving in thing has everything to do with expectations. He’ll be living here for 4 months and after that I guess we’ll see what the future holds. I am excited because he truly has become my best friend and I miss “being” with him every day. We have great communication so we will be discussing our options soon after he arrives. We’ll take this together time to really explore our relationship and see where this goes.

By: Princess0889

Princess0889 — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 19:29:10 +0000

I’ve always on position of don’t do it.

I think that before marriage I believe there should be something left to the imagination. I mean if you’re already having sex gosh please leave something even if it’s just sharing as seemingly small all your time.

I don’t think people have the initiative to change or move on within the relationship when they already have everything a married couple has.

I hate to say this but old people had it right on this one, “Why buy the cow if get the milk for free?”

By: Suzanne

Suzanne — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 18:51:10 +0000

I’m in the category of live w/ someone to see if it’s right. Not that you should live with everyone, especially the early bf’s who are more about fun and pissing off your parents than a serious future.

I know plenty of couples who have lived together and broken up, but to me, that means the relationship must not have been right.

I recently moved in with my bf — never lived with a guy before — and it’s been AWESOME. Maybe I’m just lucky, but he even cleans up after himself. )

By: I'msayintho

I'msayintho — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 17:36:26 +0000

oh yeah, Great blog, I really enjoy it!

By: I'msayintho

I'msayintho — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 17:36:03 +0000

I too have always thought that shacking up was meant for marraige or engagement. Its another level to your relationship and something new to experience together. Shacking up before marraige really gives the man no incentive to marry a woman..he/they can become comfortable and marraige gets pushed back.

I have friends that have lived together for 5 years, got engaged…and recently called the wedding off..and now someone has to move out…this wouldn’t be an issue had they waited till marraige to move in.