Married Men Who Don’t Wear Rings (Red Flag #1!)
I don’t get tangled up much in celebrity lives and fuck up but I can’t help but pay some attention to the recent Dream and Christina Milian debacle. I feel sorry for the chick. She spent her whole career being the good girl (come on “dip it low” was kinda a joke) to marrying a guy that was so not her type. Now either she is a sucka for love or a whore to attention. Whatever the case may be I noticed something was up when I started to see pictures of Dream without his wedding ring.
Call me old fashion but when I get married my husband is wearing his ring. Everyday. All day. The only time he should take it off is to sleep and shower. It’s not even about showing the world he’s taken but it’s a sign of his commitment to me. Wendy Williams explained (several times) that her husband doesn’t wear a wedding ring cause that’s not his style. Instead he wears a pinky ring and she’s ok with that.
To that I say, he cheated on you with a chick from your local bank; you wrote about it in your book and talk about it often. Fuck his pinky ring and everything he stands for.
Now, men that I know who wear their wedding rings do so with pride. One day Married Manny (I”ll hence forth refer to all my married Mannys as Manuel”… One day Manuel walked out the house without his ring and almost lost his shit. He couldn’t continue our lunch until he mentally retraced his steps and remembered that he must of left it on his dressed because “I took it off to put lotion on my face.”
The cutest thing is when you see a group of married men joking with a newlywed man about his new hardware. The lump comes to my through just thinking about it. It’s an elite club, especially if they are men of color. There should be some pride and support for those men who 1 – Take that step to commit 2 – Wear their rings proudly.
If I discover that a man is married but doesn’t wear his ring automatically I’m thinking he’s a cheater or that marriage isn’t real. You know people in the black community love to claim marriage when they really are just common law. If I don’t see a ring on your finger I have a hard time calling the woman by your side your wife. You don’t even respect her enough to where the ultimate sign on your union
NO, a neck tattoo of her name doesn’t count!
marcus
Friday, 4th March 2011 at 8:44 AM
Honestly, as a happily married man I can tell you that. I wear my ring 99.9% of the time but it doesn’t stop women from flirting, in fact I think more of them bug you when you wear the ring than not. Marriage is a bond that you better make sure is built on something other than symbols or material goods. My ring doesn’t prevent me from doing dumb crap, my love,repect and honoring of both my wife and the married lifestyle keeps me from it, Women should realize that you can’t turn a playa playa from the club into a one woman guy and most women create unrealistic ideals for the guys that have given you all the signals of what they are about. If you find a man that is truely about a one women relationship aka the marriage lifestyle and you two click on a life giving personal level then you are in luck. But if you are pushing the marriage issue or fight frequently over everything then watch out.
Dano
Saturday, 5th March 2011 at 10:54 AM
Three years ago my girl friend said no marriage? No sex! We got married:( For approx.6 months it was good then all things stopped. When she starts being a little selfless and more us I’ll put my rings back on!!!
Sharon
Sunday, 25th March 2012 at 8:30 PM
The only time my husband wears his wedding ring is when he go some where. I ask him why he don’t wear it at all time he say he don’t want to work in it. So I finger if he don’t wear his’ s so what the hell I’m going to wear mines for.