Comments on: You’re Single Until You’re Married http://saysthesinglegirl.com/2009/youre-single-until-your-married/ Tue, 15 May 2012 19:56:08 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Mrs.Jimna http://saysthesinglegirl.com/2009/youre-single-until-your-married/comment-page-1/#comment-2696 Mrs.Jimna Tue, 19 Apr 2011 18:27:37 +0000 http://saysthesinglegirl.com/?p=413#comment-2696 Seriously, is it so bad to have a Yenta arrange your marriage for ya? My goodness. I'm married now but from the time I was 9 yrs old till I got married I thought dating was stupid anyway and I just wanted a committee of wise, spiritual elders who know me very well to pick a husband for me so I can be done with it. *shrug* Seriously, is it so bad to have a Yenta arrange your marriage for ya? My goodness. I’m married now but from the time I was 9 yrs old till I got married I thought dating was stupid anyway and I just wanted a committee of wise, spiritual elders who know me very well to pick a husband for me so I can be done with it.
*shrug*

]]> By: SaySay http://saysthesinglegirl.com/2009/youre-single-until-your-married/comment-page-1/#comment-2579 SaySay Thu, 18 Mar 2010 23:03:22 +0000 http://saysthesinglegirl.com/?p=413#comment-2579 I agree with MiMi 100% I am in a relationship with my man and he provides a lot of things for me. If I were single, when times got rough for me emotionally/ financially, I would be going at it ALONE.. but he sees my frustration and he helps me out. I also provide him with some relaxation by cleaning the dishes after meals (that He cooked) and helping him clean the house. I am more than happy to do these things because he supports me and I want to show my appreciation. I never feel like i'm "playing house". I'll be playing house when we are actually paying for the Mortgage TOGETHER and I have a shiny diamond on my finger. Then and only then will I truly feel like I have something to lose if the relationship doesn't work out. I agree with MiMi 100%

I am in a relationship with my man and he provides a lot of things for me. If I were single, when times got rough for me emotionally/ financially, I would be going at it ALONE.. but he sees my frustration and he helps me out. I also provide him with some relaxation by cleaning the dishes after meals (that He cooked) and helping him clean the house. I am more than happy to do these things because he supports me and I want to show my appreciation. I never feel like i’m “playing house”. I’ll be playing house when we are actually paying for the Mortgage TOGETHER and I have a shiny diamond on my finger. Then and only then will I truly feel like I have something to lose if the relationship doesn’t work out.

]]> By: Mimi http://saysthesinglegirl.com/2009/youre-single-until-your-married/comment-page-1/#comment-2571 Mimi Fri, 26 Feb 2010 05:31:03 +0000 http://saysthesinglegirl.com/?p=413#comment-2571 I think what constitutes acting like a wife may vary from person to person. Having sex, having babies, buying a house together, washing, cooking, cleaning , joint accounts are all things that are considered a part of being a wife. No doubt single ladies are partaking in all of these actions, some only one or two others maybe all. For me the key element that constitutes being a wife would be what action would live you mad as f&%k if he left you tomorrow. Yes, I am having sex, I am not a wife, and if he left me tomorrow, well we both got ours. Cooking, cleaning, washing, I don't mind it, and I only do it if I feel like it. Now if we had joint accounts and a mortgage and he were to leave tomorrow THAT's when the problem starts! I think what constitutes acting like a wife may vary from person to person.
Having sex, having babies, buying a house together, washing, cooking, cleaning , joint accounts are all things that are considered a part of being a wife. No doubt single ladies are partaking in all of these actions, some only one or two others maybe all.
For me the key element that constitutes being a wife would be what action would live you mad as f&%k if he left you tomorrow.
Yes, I am having sex, I am not a wife, and if he left me tomorrow, well we both got ours.
Cooking, cleaning, washing, I don’t mind it, and I only do it if I feel like it.
Now if we had joint accounts and a mortgage and he were to leave tomorrow THAT’s when the problem starts!

]]> By: Cherrell http://saysthesinglegirl.com/2009/youre-single-until-your-married/comment-page-1/#comment-2562 Cherrell Fri, 19 Feb 2010 05:12:58 +0000 http://saysthesinglegirl.com/?p=413#comment-2562 Oh yeah, common sense: If in a relationship, you're not gonna walk around saying "I'm single, I'm single!" Simply out of respect for your bf/gf you wouldn't right? One shouldn't of course act single, but nor should one act married in a relationship. Remember the bridge! Oh yeah, common sense: If in a relationship, you’re not gonna walk around saying “I’m single, I’m single!” Simply out of respect for your bf/gf you wouldn’t right? One shouldn’t of course act single, but nor should one act married in a relationship. Remember the bridge!

]]> By: Cherrell http://saysthesinglegirl.com/2009/youre-single-until-your-married/comment-page-1/#comment-2561 Cherrell Fri, 19 Feb 2010 05:05:45 +0000 http://saysthesinglegirl.com/?p=413#comment-2561 I wish I was here last year. I agree with SG. See, "brand new" folk done forgot how it "'sposta be." In relationships, it is practice and yes you are single until married. This thing does require common sense and intuition. You should know somewhere down the line if a person means well by you or not, that way all of your energy wouldn't be wasted on waste. In any case though, why play "wife" or "husband" when you're not married? I do know some blessed couples that has won against the odds. Still, when in a relationship, the point is to show a briefing of what you will get once you're married. Like, hello, marriage is a reward right? Will you be able to tell how geat of a reward if you had been getting it all along? You shouldn't be cooking, cleaning, ironing/laundry, none of that for a bf/gf. That's why we're told not to shack up in the first place so you wouldn't find yourselves in those situations anyway. A relationship serves as a bridge to marriage, you're not gonna unpack all your goodies out of your bag until you make it to your destination, only enough to get there. I wish I was here last year. I agree with SG. See, “brand new” folk done forgot how it “‘sposta be.” In relationships, it is practice and yes you are single until married. This thing does require common sense and intuition. You should know somewhere down the line if a person means well by you or not, that way all of your energy wouldn’t be wasted on waste. In any case though, why play “wife” or “husband” when you’re not married? I do know some blessed couples that has won against the odds. Still, when in a relationship, the point is to show a briefing of what you will get once you’re married. Like, hello, marriage is a reward right? Will you be able to tell how geat of a reward if you had been getting it all along? You shouldn’t be cooking, cleaning, ironing/laundry, none of that for a bf/gf. That’s why we’re told not to shack up in the first place so you wouldn’t find yourselves in those situations anyway. A relationship serves as a bridge to marriage, you’re not gonna unpack all your goodies out of your bag until you make it to your destination, only enough to get there.

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