Comments on: The Cost of Dating http://saysthesinglegirl.com/2009/the-cost-of-dating/ Wed, 08 Sep 2010 07:59:18 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: BrownSkin http://saysthesinglegirl.com/2009/the-cost-of-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-2002 BrownSkin Tue, 11 Aug 2009 19:29:23 +0000 http://saysthesinglegirl.com/?p=143#comment-2002 I see both sides of the "argument." However, chatting over a chai tea latte (no foam) AND maybe a cupcake :) at Barnes and Noble or Starbucks puts lets stress on both parties (especially for a 1st date.) The atmosphere is less stressful, you don't have to worry about a new outfit (as much) nor do you have to stress about dinner etiquette/him being cheap etc... I see both sides of the “argument.” However, chatting over a chai tea latte (no foam) AND maybe a cupcake :) at Barnes and Noble or Starbucks puts lets stress on both parties (especially for a 1st date.)

The atmosphere is less stressful, you don’t have to worry about a new outfit (as much) nor do you have to stress about dinner etiquette/him being cheap etc…

]]> By: SoulSistah http://saysthesinglegirl.com/2009/the-cost-of-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-1696 SoulSistah Sun, 31 May 2009 21:35:47 +0000 http://saysthesinglegirl.com/?p=143#comment-1696 Going for a coffee (I don't drink the stuff either) provides you with valuable listening time. Going for a meal is nice but it can be a distraction (yeah, this is a nice place, the food is great! yada yada yada). Whereas on a coffee date, it's just you, him and the frappuccinos. He'll have no choice but to talk, even bear his soul and you'll very quickly decide whether or not he's worth a follow up phone call. Going for a coffee (I don’t drink the stuff either) provides you with valuable listening time. Going for a meal is nice but it can be a distraction (yeah, this is a nice place, the food is great! yada yada yada). Whereas on a coffee date, it’s just you, him and the frappuccinos. He’ll have no choice but to talk, even bear his soul and you’ll very quickly decide whether or not he’s worth a follow up phone call.

]]> By: spchrist http://saysthesinglegirl.com/2009/the-cost-of-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-31 spchrist Sun, 22 Mar 2009 04:48:04 +0000 http://saysthesinglegirl.com/?p=143#comment-31 Dionne is right...and she's probably having great dates because she's got an open mind. How is inviting someout out to coffee...insulting? If you don't like coffee...suggest something else...that isn't the cliched "dinner date". Now...did you ever think he didn't suggest dinner...because maybe he wasn't hungry? Although, your post was a hilarious read...after I stopped laughing...I paused...and said maybe she really isn't joking. This is one reason I hate dating and have cut back entirely in 2009. I don't have a problem spending money...never have when it comes to dates...but I do have a problem with what seems like a growing trend and that's women going out on dates just to see what they can get out a guy. It isn't about going out to get to know somebody anymore....or never was..and I was just blinded by the smoke women were blowing in my ears all these years. lol. If it truely is about getting to know a guy...Starbucks or a five-star restaurant shouldn't matter. Dionne is right…and she’s probably having great dates because she’s got an open mind. How is inviting someout out to coffee…insulting? If you don’t like coffee…suggest something else…that isn’t the cliched “dinner date”. Now…did you ever think he didn’t suggest dinner…because maybe he wasn’t hungry? Although, your post was a hilarious read…after I stopped laughing…I paused…and said maybe she really isn’t joking. This is one reason I hate dating and have cut back entirely in 2009. I don’t have a problem spending money…never have when it comes to dates…but I do have a problem with what seems like a growing trend and that’s women going out on dates just to see what they can get out a guy. It isn’t about going out to get to know somebody anymore….or never was..and I was just blinded by the smoke women were blowing in my ears all these years. lol. If it truely is about getting to know a guy…Starbucks or a five-star restaurant shouldn’t matter.

]]> By: Dionne http://saysthesinglegirl.com/2009/the-cost-of-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-18 Dionne Wed, 18 Mar 2009 21:22:10 +0000 http://saysthesinglegirl.com/?p=143#comment-18 I disagree, let's meet for coffee can lead to something else. It's a bit more relaxed and gives you the opportunity to be together without trying too hard to impress. I'm sorry, but you may be missing out on some great people because of your unwillingness to just be. I'm not saying settle, because being wined and dined is nice too. I'm saying be open and give people a chance. I disagree, let’s meet for coffee can lead to something else. It’s a bit more relaxed and gives you the opportunity to be together without trying too hard to impress. I’m sorry, but you may be missing out on some great people because of your unwillingness to just be. I’m not saying settle, because being wined and dined is nice too. I’m saying be open and give people a chance.

]]> By: Toya http://saysthesinglegirl.com/2009/the-cost-of-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-17 Toya Wed, 18 Mar 2009 03:17:28 +0000 http://saysthesinglegirl.com/?p=143#comment-17 This was hilarious!!!!! I agree 100%. The whole "lets meet for coffee" crap just shows a lack of creativity. Some of my best dates have been cheap, activity dates that involved something as simple as eating paninis afterwards. It's all about the way the date is set up. This was hilarious!!!!!

I agree 100%. The whole “lets meet for coffee” crap just shows a lack of creativity. Some of my best dates have been cheap, activity dates that involved something as simple as eating paninis afterwards. It’s all about the way the date is set up.

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