Comments on: The 5 Steps to Marriage

By: Lionel

Lionel — Sat, 03 Oct 2009 02:08:44 +0000

I agree with SG’s model and I like how it doesnt have “friends” as a stage. I don’t want to be your friend, I want to be your lover. And from SG’s model I see where I’ve erred in past relationships by wanting to be exclusive too soon. From your model I can exercise options, make the best choice, and enjoy the ride all without secrecy/guilt/regret.

By: sylkiifeather

sylkiifeather — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 01:47:40 +0000

yea you are right about that. kind of a tricky thing to me. but i have been caught in a delimma where i got into the relationship before having sex and the sex was horrible…and i ended up cheating because i didnt want to tell him that it was bad. yea i was wrong. so i had to change that rule up just a little.

By: brainsnbeautii

brainsnbeautii — Sun, 13 Sep 2009 19:52:16 +0000

Haha.Makes sense to test it out right before you get into a committed relationship.I just wouldn’t during the dating stage.I feel like if you give it up too soon,the relationship might not progress past that stage.

By: sylkiifeather

sylkiifeather — Sun, 13 Sep 2009 19:47:17 +0000

i actually meant to put dating as #2 and courting as #3. the reason i say sex for me should come before a relationship is because sex for me is a very important aspect of a relationship. if i am in a relationship with somebody and the sex isnt good, then its a problem for me. thats only because im a nympho lol. but i am very selective about who i allow to court and date me. and the sex comes right before the decision to get into a relationship. so that means that the person is on a high level with me already when we decide to have sex…and its very difficult for a guy to get on that level with me. but usually it ends at dating or courting.

By: brainsnbeautii

brainsnbeautii — Sun, 13 Sep 2009 18:34:11 +0000

I always considered dating and courting to be the same thing BUT with the descriptions SG came up with,they’re different.My order would be 1.Friendship 2.Dating 3.Courting 4.Relationship 5.Sex 6.Engagement 7.Marriage. I think sex should be saved until you’re at the point when you’re both sure you want to be monogamous.If you bring sex into the equation before you’re exclusive,it might end up being nothing more than that.Sex.

By: sylkiifeather

sylkiifeather — Sun, 13 Sep 2009 16:44:42 +0000

well this is my order…1)Friendship 2) Courting 3)Dating 4)Sex 5)Relationship 6)Engagement 7)Marriage

By: Nitha

Nitha — Sun, 13 Sep 2009 07:38:31 +0000

Great post. @lovely lady…*sigh* You were going somewhere with your first reply only to jack it all up with the second. You sound like and are reinforcing the mistaken but widely held notion that all Christians are uneducated hypocrites…and this is coming from a fellow Christian lady. Check that. Now.

By: sylkiifeather

sylkiifeather — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 16:38:28 +0000

lol….this will spark a convo about hypocrite ass christians….

By: DC Man with a Plan

DC Man with a Plan — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 15:07:41 +0000

lmao @ lovely lady. You sure told ME…..Glad you’re waiting for the ONE God is sending your way. Virginity is admirable and VERY mature and responsible. Good for you. And, BTW, while you’re waiting for the ONE God is sending to you…work on that anger and cussin ish….lol….You’ll be viewed as a better Christian and more mature woman–without the cursing…..

By: sylkiifeather

sylkiifeather — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 07:57:59 +0000

i agree that as long as two people are in agreement as to what they want out of the relationship, then there is nothing wrong if marriage is not in the picture. i am a 23 year old female, and right now marriage is not an option. but i also would like to find somebody who i can trust enough to be in a relationship with. so there is nothing wrong with being in a relationship without marriage being a next step. relationships should be about sharing a bond with only one other person, not about marriage. if it gets to that step then thats cool. alot of people mess up a relationship by ending it just because the other person isnt ready for marriage. thats silly. but i do agree with the first 2 steps