PSA: Ladies, Lace Front Wigs Are Not Your Friend
For as long as there has been women on earth, we’ve always tried to find way to make ourselves more beautiful. Whether it was crushing roses to make blush or fashioning corsets from animal bone for a slimmer waist; women have no limit for achieving beauty.
However, not all things are for all people.
One of those things…
Lace Front Wigs.
I can’t walk past one beauty parlour in the hood without seeing some stenciled sign that reads:
WE DO LACEFRONTS
It’s funny how a year ago the gossip blogs had us gagging over Beyoncé and Lady Baby Hair’s lacefronts.
We’d say to our friends, “Girl, with all that money they got, you mean to tell me they can’t get a better wig.”
Well now the shoe is on the other foot.
The common woman is getting a wig full of hair glued to her scalp. Most of them look plain crazy.
I’m also hearing that in order to achieve this look some women are SHAVING their own natural hairlines in order to apply the lacefront smoothly.
Is it that serious?
Forgive me for liking a man to run his finger through my hair and touch scalp without me pulling away for fear he finds a track. It’s about to be summer time and who wants a half pound of European straight sitting on their head like a hat?
I say all this to say:
This isn’t just about fake hair. It’s about our insecurities and the way in which we show them. Don’t get me wrong, not all women who wear fake hair are insecure. But a lot of you are.
Women, love and accept who you are (hair or no hair) because that is the only way you will find someone who will do the same.
- STSG
Lady Jei
Wednesday, 20th May 2009 at 7:35 PM
Well, with that being said, lol. I have to agree with you. And this is coming from a woman who has a plethora, yes plethora of wigs. I have a head full of hair, however I have become extremely lazy. With being able to get up, shake and go I have truly become content with them. I am very careful about them as well.
Also I do not and will not place a lacefront in my head. Because it is too permanent and I have seen the damage (Naomi, Kelly Rowland) those things can do.
I am very selective, get the best quality hair, and wear them according to my outfit.
And yes, all that hair in the hott ass summer, too much.
I am very confident with or without them. I just wear them strictly for convenience purposes. And they look nice. To spice it up. And they are all either 1 (jet black) or 2/27 (brown with some dark blond highlights). Not any crazy colors.
And I have no problem taking out my own hair, but it would just be in a ponytail, lol.
Great blog!
Ambyr
Thursday, 21st May 2009 at 10:22 PM
Umm..okay I have never worn a wig, weave, or any other kind of fake hair except for in braids. My hair is about mid back so there really isn’t a need for it. However, i don’t think if a woman wants to wear a weave she has to be insecure. If my hair would not grow to my desired length i would get a weave and that doesn’t mean I would be insecure. People who wear make-up wear it to enhance their beauty and that is the same as wearing a wig. People are to hung up with minding other peoples bussiness.
Shadiddy
Monday, 8th June 2009 at 4:46 PM
Ditto to Ambyr…as a woman who wears her hair naturally, and yet, also enjoys a good wig, weave or braids WHEN I WANT TO, I beg to differ. When it comes down to it, I think the focus needs to be on keeping yourself presentable, regardless of what way you style your hair. If you choose to perm your hair, keep it touched up. If you choose to wear lace fronts, keep it glued up (lol). By all means, do what you have to do to prevent/avoid that atrocity that is beyonce’s hairline in that picture above.
As women, we have the freedom to express our beauty in any way we see fit. The only time insecurity comes in to play is when a woman feels she CANNOT be beautiful WITHOUT the perm, weave, wig etc…(but that’s a whole ‘notha blog in itself!)
Butterfly
Friday, 21st August 2009 at 4:51 PM
I know this blog was posted some time ago and I usually lurk, but today I feel like commenting. Personally, I think lace front wigs are a Godsend. I suffer from permanent hair loss and weaves are no longer an option. I think I’m the “Cat’s Meow” but having lace fronts gives me the extra shot of espresso in the self esteem cup that gets me as close to normalcy as it’s going to get.
Now as far as shaving your natural hairline to wear a lace front=crazy (just my opinion).
Buying a full lace wig to keep me from looking like I’m a fresh chemo patient is worth it. Having no hair to call my own can play the self-esteem card but I don’t want sympathy. I’ve worked and prayed to darn hard to keep from throwing my own pity party.
So the lace fronts glued to my scalp is that added protection that I need when I’m ready to roll around in the hay with that special someone. I don’t have to interrupt the moment by running into the bathroom either tying a head scarf around a regular wig tight to keep it from coming off (again) or snatching the wig off and tying the head scarf around my head so tight that the knot leaves a bruise in the middle of my forehead. Lace fronts and full lace get 2 thumbs up for me!
Queen Coco Brown
Friday, 11th September 2009 at 9:21 AM
Frankly, I am tired of this topic. I am going to keep it as real with you as possible. My hair is natural. Every time I got a perm in the past, it made my hair fall out. So my alternatives is weaves, wigs and braids. I am not walking around the street with my hair natural because natural (at this point) does not fit me. Natural is not for everyone. My face is round and my kinky hair is short.
This is not, however, the case for everyone. A lot of ppl wear weaves and wigs for versatility. It has nothing to do with self confidence. It is just mere choice.
I, on the other hand just like to look good at all times. Lace front wigs help me to achieve that. If u don’t like it, tough. I like it. My man likes it. That’s all that matters:)
sal
Monday, 28th September 2009 at 4:38 PM
O.K. Married woman 25 years and I am forty-somthin. I have worn weaves and wigs for more than 20 years now. LOVE THEM! My husband LOVES THEM MORE THAN I DO! I send him out to buy them for me when I am not able. As previously stated by some of my other girl friends, it DOES NOT relate to self-esteem or self-confidence. I started supplementing my hair after years
of permanents destroyed by natural tress. I am not interested in what anyone else thinks. This is a matter of convenience and I do not care who knows it. I am not out to deceive anyone. As previously stated, it is just like putting on make-up or other accessory for that matter. If it makes you look and feel good about how you look, WEAR IT, LIVE IT LOVE IT. Now I understand that some of my younger single gals may be a bit more sensitive to this, being that some men do not like the ideal. To those darlings I say, DO NOT DATE THOSE TYPE OF MEN! There are men out there who like a woman’s hair to look great no matter what it takes. As for lace front, never ever will I go there. If I want permanent or more natural looking hair, I’ll take my wig off!
Much love! Joy & Peace Eternally In Him
smarter than you
Thursday, 19th November 2009 at 11:45 AM
people like you make me sick with your narrow mindedness
mindurs
Wednesday, 16th December 2009 at 4:47 PM
Its really crazy to see how people are always trying to be negative on the slick! Face the fact that its called a “Hater” I personally don’t wear weave of any kind by choice but if I wanted to that’s my decision and who am I are who are you to judge that. Some people just look good in them and others may not but whatever!!! If they feel they want to cut a mop by each string and glue it to ever single end of their nature hair by all mean go ahead … But lace fronts you gotta be a natural “hater” cause honestly it doesn’t look that horrible!!! Beyonce and who ever else rock that gurllls …
Confident Woman
Monday, 21st December 2009 at 2:01 AM
Well after reading this I must say something. I believe lace front wigs are great on woman, even if it does booste their self esteem! Wouldn’t you rather have people feeling good about themselves instead of doing harm. From my experience doing hair, I must say that most of the woman that come into my shop get lace front wigs because if is more of a hastle to deal with the uncontrollable hair they do have. African Americans do not have the same hair as other races and it is more difficult to style and keep in containment. The lace front weaves allow woman not to worry about what their hair will do on a rainy day. Not trying to make the writer feel bad, but you must not have African American hair because you obviously do not see where our race is coming from or have not work in a saloon.
Weaves, hair pieces and other products are used mainly because of the fact that African American hair is not very easy to work with because of the lack of oils which are seen in other races hair. If you get a custom Lace front their is no shaving of the head because the hair line is measured by professionals and fit so their is not cutting of the hair. Just because the African Americans have found a solutions to our hair problems we are getting knocked? Why should we have to continuously relax our hair or straighten it because of the fact our hair is not the same texture? It is easier and convient to find other solution to our hair issue instead of resulting to chemicals. The average black woman spend over 45 mins doing their hair on a daily basis which is truely a waste of time when other things more important can be done.
It’s funny because I feel the writer of this blog is ignorant. Maybe your insecure because you do not have to options for good hair treatment.
Why don’t you shave your head and tell me how you feel after.. are you insecure?
I can honestly tell you that my hair is all natural, and yes I am an african america! It’s more about preference, I have had woman come in and change their hair styles because they simple want to try something different. I understand hair but obviously the writer does not. Grow up and write about something that can make a difference instead of trying to bring others down to raise your insecurities. It’s sad that other woman feel don’t embrace what is out their but instead to to find way to make others feel their negatie energy and I just wanted to say hair or no hair a womans beauty comes from within.
Why don’t you talk about other races… why just african america hair? Before you write about African American hair you should first understand it. But thanks you for your unintelligent comment and maybe next time don’t just target on race maybe focus on why woman continuously do things to their hair. Other races spend hundreds on hair cuts and colors… but why? To look like celebs or to make themselves feel better. Goob luck on future “blogs” any hopefully you can open you mind instead of being so closed minded! Thanks!! ( next time do research because opions don’t take you too far and do not sound credible. )
Angie
Monday, 3rd May 2010 at 5:10 AM
Well this seems to be more of your issue op, than it is of mine. I have natural hair but it is braided so I can wear my wig. I love my wig and so does my boyfriend. He likes me with straight hair or with an afro. I have worn my hair natural for years, and finally decided to make a change. I wanted something new and different, and I must say that I am pleased with the way I look now. It is a great thing to be able to try different hairstyles without damaging my real hair. That is why I wear the wigs. I don’t really pay much attention to people like you, because you have no idea what “most” black women are feeling or going through.
What if you lost your hair or had to shave all of your hair off? Would you wear a wig or would you be brave enough to walk around bald? Glass houses sweetheart. Check yourself. Have a good day.