“I Know Why Northern Women are Single”


As a gentleman living below the Mason Dixon line, I often wonder why there are so many hot ass, upwardly mobile, driven, accomplished and financially stable women from the north.  A vast majority of them being single! I mean as a young’in I used to love visiting during the summer. I’d get turned on hearing that accent and watching their swag that was oh so different than what I was used to! Now, I know I mentioned the North but when I recall these memories I’m talking specifically about the women from NEW YORK (N.Y. stand up! J).

I think that one of the reasons why Northern women are single (especially you lovely ladies in the Big Apple) is the exactly the reason that makes ‘em so damn HOT. The swag that they have puts them in the mind state that they are above and beyond women from any other region. They feel they are too good to deal with stuff ladies from the south accept.

The Big Apple is the swag capital of the world (so y’all say… I believe what Outkast says “All Funky Things Start In the South”  Ha ha Yankees). Anyhow it is the place where phrases like “BALLIN”  were coined. So I think that they feel they have to find a dude that is Ballin’ and all that jazz. They over look a dude who may work hard but doesn’t have as much as the baler. This non-balling dude could treat them like a queen and she could be very happy with him.

Granted, when you live in a city where you can party like it’s New Year’s Eve every night, see someone drive a Bentley or Lamborgini like how I see pick up trucks you expect a certain level of Lifestyle of the Rich and Famous. Yankee girls, you’ve convinced yourself that is normal. I can tell you this…that is not normal.

Another reason why northern ladies are single ladies: They are ballin’ on their own. How can a woman who works hard, spends her money on all the lavish things she wants and refuses in practicing the fine art of “taking care of home” supposed to fit a good man in her life? With her status comes the attitude of “I can do it myself” or “I want it done this way!”

We have women down her who get paper but better believe when they come home from a long days work they don’t think twice about doing something that show they can and want to take care of their man cause they know he will take care of her. It’s not a tit for tat. Southern women know their role and we southern gentlemen handle ours.

Their standards are so high that most of the dudes they come across don’t meet them. Most guys don’t even get the chance! More times than not, the man they are holding out for doesn’t even exist.

You northern ladies need to come down south and get some of what we cookin’ down here. If you don’t believe me then ask that home girl or cousin that went to school down south and ain’t neva come back. That’s that southern comfort ladies, gon and get ya some. It will change ya life.

Well if you northern ladies have any questions or comments about why y’all don’t have a man y’all let my girl SG know and she will let me know.

Till next time…

- Mr. Southern Comfort

17 Responses to ““I Know Why Northern Women are Single””

  1. This is my first time on this blog so first let me say “hey”. lol

    Now on to my comment, I would have to disagree with your reasoning Mr. SC. Born and raised just across the water from The Big Apple, I cook, clean, and do all of the traditionally “female” duties. I am also college educated, work full-time, and support myself financially and do not look at a man’s ‘BALLIN’” status (or lack thereof) to determine if I will give him the time of day. At the end of the day, i want a man who knows how to treat a lady as such and unfortunately, these types are hard to find up North. Opening car doors and pulling out chairs and doing little things just to make me smile. . . yea, they not too into all of that up here. When a northern lady requires this of her guy, she is considered “high maintenence” and “too much work” because, unfortunately there are SOME women who require absolutely NOTHING from the guys the date. Go figure. But trust me, I would gladly take an avergare blue-collar, hard working MAN who knows how to treat me over a Bentley driving jokah with a questionable occupation who treats me like I’m expendable ANYday! lol

  2. Single in the South

    Wednesday, 15th April 2009 at 1:38 PM

    It’s not just the North. I’m a woman living in a small-to-medium-sized midwestern city, and it’s hard to find a man who makes as much as or more than I do. Why is this necessary? Same reason doctors get good at sniffing out “gold diggers.” After playing sugar mama to two guys, one of whom worked in food service, and the other, manual labor, let me assure you- income equality is a MUST. Even with the best of intentions, I find without fail they will begin to take advantage of you, and start feeling entitled to a free ride. You may be eating sandwiches for lunch to build up a savings account, but he’s eating out for lunch every day and not paying you a red cent for crashing at your place 6 nights a week.

  3. MS Yellow G.R.I.T.S (girls raised in the south)

    Thursday, 16th April 2009 at 5:56 AM

    hmmmm…… Mr. Southern Comfort, where do I start…….. I’m not goin to say that the issue is really the women from the north and things they want from and in their men….. For the longest time I dated and only dated guys from NY, just because the SWAG (as you say) had me gone! The guys from NY had a 2layered brick wall up, that I just really got tired of breaking down brick by brick!!!! ANY woman, regardless of geographical location, wants to ‘be in’ and not fighting to be a part of your life……. Maybe it’s the friendliness of the smiling faces on every block in the south that just make the men here more willing to let you if in………..

    By the way Single in the North, the men here in the south, they ain’t big on open doors and all that shyt either……. (Trust when I say Ive been coined high maint. and all that and I’m SOOOOOOO far from that) Some will look @ you like you crazy……. However ‘chilvary is not dead’ in all of them……..

  4. Mr. Southern Comfort

    Thursday, 16th April 2009 at 10:46 AM

    Chilvary is Not Dead I like that quote!! It in fact was one of my Status’ for myspace back in the day! Nice Ms “YELLO” grits!

  5. Ok here is my 2 cents…

    I grew up and lived in NY and for the past 10yrs in “da Saaouth”. It’s a catch 22 at the end of the day. The difference between The North and South in general is approach. North is more direct – South slips you a sugar pill before the bottomline. Northern women are direct and it’s cute until the line is cross – “oh you aint give me nuthing this month”. Same with the south all that sweet shit is great until you realize she got you hooked on the food and sex and has manipulated you into submission.

  6. MS Yellow G.R.I.T.S (girls raised in the south)

    Thursday, 16th April 2009 at 6:39 PM

    hmmmm manipulated into submission or just enjoying the feeling of being treated good all the way around??????

  7. Livin in tha South & Married

    Friday, 17th April 2009 at 10:21 AM

    I have not ever lived in the North…but I think the problem here is, no matter what region you live in why is it expected that a woman cant wait to find the man that she truly deserves. So many woman i really believe just “settle”. Why is it a man who works a 40 week and a woman who also works that 40 week is then expected to come home and cook, clean, and tend to the children. I think men need to start steppin up to the plate and realizing that the plate is 50/50. Help me to help you out!

  8. I read about the NYC Norhtern Women and its not that they want ballers i am from the bronx there’s alot of women in the city that search for good brothers and some find them, there not so independent that they don’t reconize a true man. Now on the other had i wrote a book The Humpty Dumpty Theory AND IT HAS ALOT OF WOMEN FROM THE A SOUUTH who try to fix some of the sorriest men i ever seen?? And then wounder why they cheat or Disrespect them but like i see it , it is what it is NOw i am onley speaking about hte women i have seen in San Antonio,Tx Sad state of mind here. Blaqryne

  9. Mr. SC, it’d make more sense if you’d comment on things that you actually do KNOW about. There are a lot of single women in NY because of the MEN in NY. Here’s a thought, Demographics. Men in the south are more inclined to be family oriented. If they don’t go off to college or the military after HS they get a job, get married and start a family. Not so for the men up North. Single men that have a legit job, know how to treat a woman and aren’t self-proclaimed pimps are a hot commodity in NY (and everywhere else for that matter). They love the night life, the women and the non-committence of bachelorhood. Once they’ve indulged in this life, it’s hard for them to settle down because they think they may miss the “ho-train” for one last ride. Hence, the brick wall. (Thanks, Ms Yellow GRITS. You were right on point with that statement). For us educated women that work hard, play hard and make our own dough; I say why settle?
    We know what we bring to the table and we know we can cook slammin greens and make sweet tea as good as any Southern Belle (ok, at least I can) so reserve the right to be selective. Mr. Right is out there…just don’t count on him being a NYer, though.

  10. I would like to be able to thank you for the efforts you earn in creating this article.

  11. I’m from the north and never had a problem finding a man, keeping a man happy and loyal. Reason we keep our men so long is that we don’t spread and try out every man out there before we finally have no choices left and settle for the guy who never leaves us. Hey he still cheats on you, but as long as you have his money, you are happy. Right? Not us, we are in it for love. NYC girls totally different from the rest of us, so please don’t group us all together.

  12. It all seems so crytofacist all this hetro dating ladies why not date women and have hot lesbian action.Beside they now have same sex marriage so stick it to the man muhahahahahaha. As for the men their always a nice transgender person some where or something.

  13. There’s probably alot of single ladies in NY, not because of the men, but because alot of those NY women are stuck up. My friend who came up from Atlanta came up to NY to visit, and he was saying good evening to them, but all of them ignored him and he said to me “why these women have that look on their face” And I said, what are you talking about, he said “they got this look on their face like they don’t want to be bothered” .Meaning you could tell they had attitudes.We were hanging out by the train station and as they were exiting and leaving the station and even the ones just walking by the station they had this don’t bother me kind of look on their faces. Lots of women were walking down the street with the phone in their hand and as he was watching this he asked “how do you bag chicks in this city?” I started laughing. He was like if he moved out here that he would have to do “online dating”. Talking to him and others who have been to the south and north,
    they say the southern woman is more approachable.

    They also tell me that southern women are more family oriented and northern women are more about independence and doing for self and are not as concerned with settling down and starting a family as much their southern counter parts

  14. When you get a real southern man he treats you like a piece of fine China. He loves you with ever fiber that he is and protects you from any danger. And its hell if someone hurts his lady because you will pay dearly. Southern women work and help support the family and that is the way it should be. But the live and devotion you receive from this man is worth it all. I speak from having one for 40 years and love inly grows now babe that is love southern style

  15. There is a culture difference between Southern and Yankee woman. I lived in both the north and south. The hospitality is a major one. Down south there is more respect for woman and men, you open doors for females and you hold the up most respect for females and vice versa and you refer to females as ma’am up north the woman get offended if you call them ma’am or darling and they don’t want men to open doors for them. It seems northern woman don’t show the same respect for men as Southern Bells do. Hate to say this but, y’all Northern girls could learn a thing or two by being in south and hanging around our Southern Bells.

  16. Born and raised in Texas, and my bf was raised in NY. He said a lot of women up there are very independent, and in Texas are family oriented. We get anachos early start in getting married and having a family. He likes that I’m very family oriented. Up there he said they were stuck up and the majority didn’t cook. Everything is fast paced and down here it’s very laid back.

  17. Speaking of New York, California, Massachusetts, Illinois, Washington D.C., and some southern states, this is my observation after having lived and travelled to those places. American society as a whole is broken and when you observe interactions between people, you have to wonder if Americans ever ask themselves how the world views them. I guess they don’t need to since they’re better than everybody else. In my opinion, The U.S. is only good for one thing: doing business or making money if that’s your sole motivation in life. Everything else about American society can be a dreadful experience, especially if you’re a foreigner.

    You feel that your American ego have been wounded by those sentences because you’ve been taught and brainwashed that the U.S. is great and awesome? Those of you who haven’t lived abroad and seen how people – I mean real people – interact with each other, you need a reality check. Oh forgive my arrogance. I recognize I’m speaking to the citizens of the greatest country on earth.

    I know you can’t handle hearing the truth from outsiders because you have thin skin as most Americans are. If you can’t or don’t want to, you’re free to skip my comment and keep lying to yourself. But you can only fool yourself as people from other part of the world will tell you bluntly what they think of most Americans. They’ll unanimously say that they’re materialistic, ignorant, condescending, arrogant and fake.

    That being said, are you ready to get offended?

    That discussion about Northern woman vs. Southern woman is based on fundamental problems that exist in American society. Southern American women represent what many foreign women are and to a great extent what American women were before the 1960’s. You know where I’m coming with this: the issue of feminism. But I’m not going to expound on that even though it has immense implications on the way American society is being reengineered.

    Really the first issue in my opinion has to do with society as a whole. It is said that as you increase your science, you also increase your torments.

    Here are the observations that foreigners like me have made when they come to your fine country.

    1. Everyone is a slave to their phones. Americans have an urge to be constantly entertained or distracted with smartphones. This is a result of a perverse need to keep pace with whatever technological device Silicon Valley comes out with. People have lost the art of talking to one another. They text more than they talk. Their message is often very crass with poor vocabulary as if they know no more than 50 words of English. When I wanted to observe American culture in its finer detail, I rode public transportation. I noticed that only blue-collar Mexicans and members of other minority ethnic groups on the bus were able to sit still without playing with their phone or some MP3 player.

    2. There is no unifying culture. Everyone seems to talk the same way. The next ten people you see can be from completely different backgrounds and styles, with no obvious pattern to their appearance, but the second they start talking it’s obvious they consume the same mass media. Americans value individuality but only when it comes to looks. A preppy Georgetown lawyer and H Street hipster can actually have identical speech, with the same catchy phrases or slogans.

    3. Americans are very clickish, often to their detriment. They have to invent something called ice-breaker when they mingle with their fellow citizens. When I visited university campuses, I heard students used “ice-breaking event” to get to know their classmates. I thought it was because they wanted to get acquainted with the foreign student population on these campuses. I was wrong as I heard people talk about “ice-breaker” and “bridge event” in other situations such as church or community events. I was bewildered. The fact of the matter is, Americans are afraid of everything and everyone. They think Strangers are too friendly. The general atmosphere is such that if a male tries to talk to a female she doesn’t know in a park or in some other public place, she automatically assumes it’s because the male have some kind of sexual interest in her or wants her phone number. What happen to normal person-to-person interaction, be it a stranger or not? Being comfortable only with your own little world can causes you to miss out on the opportunity to meet people that are interesting. It’s so obvious to me why American men naturally resort to head game with their sexual counterpart. It hacks into the American communication style. They have to lie, pretend, and manipulate to appear interesting or to get what they want.

    4. Americans view conversation as a means of entertaining themselves. You have to endure the populace and their poor attempts at being social. There’s a time to engage people and there’s a time not to. The signal-to-noise ratio in conversations is abysmal. Americans know how to speak, but they don’t know how to have a conversation. Their typical chatter is so inane that most foreigners will tell you that sometimes when they speak to Americans, they try to figure out how to end the conversation. They just want to say, “You got to shut up!” European people can be shy on the surface, but they generally talk about interesting things and know how to calibrate their audience. Americans are so clueless that they continue talking even when you stop making eye contact and focus on something else.

    5. There’s no concept of boundaries. During my first trip to a Starbucks, again for the social experience, I overheard an employee recapping her weekend. Within a couple minutes I knew what guy she liked, how drunk she got, the guy that her friend likes, and who she has ongoing beefs with. I’ve heard women talk about their sexual prowess the night before – how they really nocked it out of the guy they went on a date with — as if they are some porn stars. I’ve heard people talking about medical issues on the phone while riding the Metro. You get the feeling that people want you to notice them. This is even more extreme with urban youth who are loud and physically encroach on your space so that you have no choice but to recognize their existence.

    6. Female interactions are dominated by fake compliments. Women greet each other not with a hello, but a compliment based on appearance, even though that compliment is in no way warranted. I lost count how many times I heard, “You look great!” I’d turn my head to see a woman who absolutely did not look great. I suspect that insincere complimenting is another drop in the bucket to account for why American men and women have large self-esteems, thinking they’re the best thing that could happen to planet earth.

    7. People like to stuff their face after a night of drinking. It’s disturbing to see so many people eating greasy food after consuming several hundred calories from alcohol loaded with juice. Most of them are overweight yet they eat pizza or artisanal burgers right before they go to bed. It’s like they want to be fat. But hey, you can’t say the word “fat” in the U.S. even if the person is. You can say, “If you keep at it like this you’re going to be fat or you’ll be fatter than you are.” You have to tiptoe around it and tell the person, “You look great, you just need a little bit of exercise.”

    8. Boys in public schools are being brainwashed with feminist ideology. They are being trained to act like women—to care, share, be polite, and blindly follow authority. The vice principal at the school where my 9-year-old former neighbor’s son went to, called his mother one day because he laughed when his friend was teasing another kid. They made him sign a contract saying he would no longer hang out with that friend during recess. The mother said she feared they would suggest ADD drugs for his son so that his female teacher wasn’t inconvenienced with normal boy behavior.

    ** Now these are my observations of the modern, sophisticated American woman vs. the foreign woman. Feel free to hate me as you wish.

    1. They have unreasonable standards. They expect their men to have a big house in the suburbs and a salary of at least 150,000 dollars from a high status job (e.g. doctor, lawyer, CEO). To repeat something I read in an American men’s magazine, “They’ll tell you if you don’t fit the bill. If they can’t be blunt, they’ll make inferences or use subtle code words to indicate the type of men with earning power they seek, or they’ll ask you indirect questions.” Most foreign women on the other hand, are content with a man, as long as he is a nice person and takes care of her and the family sufficiently. But I came to understand that when speaking about men in the U.S., the word “nice” have a bad connotation. It’s often used by American women to mockingly refer to the man whom she considers a beta male (e.g. the type that holds door for women, that helps female friends with their problems, and that are kind with everyone.).

    2. They see nothing wrong with cheating on their men. Just look at the hookup culture of the U.S. today. It’s the Women are applauded for their indecent conduct (in the name of equality with men). “If you can rack up so many sexual partners, guess what? I can too.” Never mind STDs or HPV that bring about cervical cancer later on. What should you expect from a generation that loves to read Fifty Shades Of Grey? Foreign women, on the other hand, have not been raised to indulge in or glorify loose behavior. I’m talking about the foreign women outside of the western world (e.g. Eastern Europe, Latin America, Asia, and Middle East). They generally are far more chaste and loyal than the vast majority of the modern American women. This is no doubt due to the more traditional cultures that these non-Western regions have.

    3. They contribute to a large extent to the high divorce rate in the U.S. 80 percent of divorces are initiated by women. They are divorce-happy, and will divorce their husbands over extremely trivial reasons. The divorce system in America is also extremely biased in women’s favor, and many women will divorce their husbands simply to “cash out” or to take half or all of the man’s money and assets. Foreign women, on the other hand, have a much more loyal mindset to their men and won’t just abandon their husband because she read the latest chick book like Eat Pray Love and decides she “needs to find herself.” Again I’m referring to the non-Westernized foreign women. But even women of other Western societies tend to be more realistic of life. They know life is a struggle, it’s not a fairytale like the one portrayed in Disney movies.

    4. They have an attitude problem. They don’t mind embodying selfishness, immaturity, narcissism, fake personalities, arrogance, and anger. To top it all, they encourage the sailor and debasement culture of American society, where both sexes engage in excessive amounts of cursing, tattooism, head shaving, and all-around general vulgarity. I never understand why a woman would need many piercings and tattoos. It’s a behavior that sane people would attribute to that of prison convicts. A person that marks their body multiple times with tattoos, let alone if they’ll do it at the drop of a hat, clearly denotes a lack of judgment. But I understand it’s a matter of personal preference. Tattoo yourselves all you want, see if the rest of the world care. Foreign women, on the other hand, are generally pleasant people to be around. They don’t have the massive chip on their shoulders like American women do, and are much more down to earth, humble, and genuine.

    5. They lack sense of humor. According to an American friend, if you tell a joke in front of them, and it is even slightly politically incorrect, it can literally cost you your job. They tend to be extremely vindictive and they get offended over the slightest things. My American friend used to say “Often the difference between harassment and flirting is if the woman likes you or not. They can literally take anything out of context.” Foreign women, on the other hand, are much more relaxed and not as drama-queen as American women. Even if they do find something offensive, they will generally overlook it and not create a scene. This is because foreign women are not as insecure as American women and don’t feel the need to constantly prove themselves.

    6. They don’t know how to cook. It’s like they barely even know how to boil water. A home cooked meal to them means boxed Mac N Cheese or Ramen Noodles. Foreign women, on the other hand, know how to cook complex multi-course dishes. The complexity of Indian cooking or Chinese or Eastern European or Latino cooking is something that would take these American women years to master.

    7. They are more brainwashed by feminism than any other country on earth. Feminism in America has transformed into a man-hating movement that is reflected in their attitudes. According to them, “independence” is equal to acting like a spoiled, loud mouthed brat. Foreign women, on the other hand, may support feminism but they have a much more realistic view of what feminism means—equality. Feminism to a foreign woman means simply being treated with respect, instead of wanting to dominate the man at every turn.

    8. These women are superficial and they expect their men to also be superficial and fake. According to American men I know, you have to put on a false image and be someone who you are not just to be considered as acceptable in America. They say dealing with these women is exhaustive because of the amount of games you have to play. Foreign women, on the other hand, are genuinely warm-hearted people and you can just be yourself around them. You don’t have to wear a mask or be a fake person in order to get a foreign woman to like you. That, in the end, is probably one of the best things about foreign women. You can relax and just be yourself and have a genuine relationship with them.

    ** I’m not generalizing when I say “American women.”, I find it cumbersome to write “most American women” all the time. I recognize that not every woman in America is like that. Personally I find women from the South and the Midwest much more down-to-earth and realistic about life than women in other metropolitan areas.

    And please don’t ask me where I am from. I’m from planet earth.

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