“I Know Why Northern Women are Single”
As a gentleman living below the Mason Dixon line, I often wonder why there are so many hot ass, upwardly mobile, driven, accomplished and financially stable women from the north. A vast majority of them being single! I mean as a young’in I used to love visiting during the summer. I’d get turned on hearing that accent and watching their swag that was oh so different than what I was used to! Now, I know I mentioned the North but when I recall these memories I’m talking specifically about the women from NEW YORK (N.Y. stand up! J).
I think that one of the reasons why Northern women are single (especially you lovely ladies in the Big Apple) is the exactly the reason that makes ‘em so damn HOT. The swag that they have puts them in the mind state that they are above and beyond women from any other region. They feel they are too good to deal with stuff ladies from the south accept.
The Big Apple is the swag capital of the world (so y’all say… I believe what Outkast says “All Funky Things Start In the South” Ha ha Yankees). Anyhow it is the place where phrases like “BALLIN” were coined. So I think that they feel they have to find a dude that is Ballin’ and all that jazz. They over look a dude who may work hard but doesn’t have as much as the baler. This non-balling dude could treat them like a queen and she could be very happy with him.
Granted, when you live in a city where you can party like it’s New Year’s Eve every night, see someone drive a Bentley or Lamborgini like how I see pick up trucks you expect a certain level of Lifestyle of the Rich and Famous. Yankee girls, you’ve convinced yourself that is normal. I can tell you this…that is not normal.
Another reason why northern ladies are single ladies: They are ballin’ on their own. How can a woman who works hard, spends her money on all the lavish things she wants and refuses in practicing the fine art of “taking care of home” supposed to fit a good man in her life? With her status comes the attitude of “I can do it myself” or “I want it done this way!”
We have women down her who get paper but better believe when they come home from a long days work they don’t think twice about doing something that show they can and want to take care of their man cause they know he will take care of her. It’s not a tit for tat. Southern women know their role and we southern gentlemen handle ours.
Their standards are so high that most of the dudes they come across don’t meet them. Most guys don’t even get the chance! More times than not, the man they are holding out for doesn’t even exist.
You northern ladies need to come down south and get some of what we cookin’ down here. If you don’t believe me then ask that home girl or cousin that went to school down south and ain’t neva come back. That’s that southern comfort ladies, gon and get ya some. It will change ya life.
Well if you northern ladies have any questions or comments about why y’all don’t have a man y’all let my girl SG know and she will let me know.
Till next time…
- Mr. Southern Comfort
Single in the North
Wednesday, 15th April 2009 at 12:03 PM
This is my first time on this blog so first let me say “hey”. lol
Now on to my comment, I would have to disagree with your reasoning Mr. SC. Born and raised just across the water from The Big Apple, I cook, clean, and do all of the traditionally “female” duties. I am also college educated, work full-time, and support myself financially and do not look at a man’s ‘BALLIN’” status (or lack thereof) to determine if I will give him the time of day. At the end of the day, i want a man who knows how to treat a lady as such and unfortunately, these types are hard to find up North. Opening car doors and pulling out chairs and doing little things just to make me smile. . . yea, they not too into all of that up here. When a northern lady requires this of her guy, she is considered “high maintenence” and “too much work” because, unfortunately there are SOME women who require absolutely NOTHING from the guys the date. Go figure. But trust me, I would gladly take an avergare blue-collar, hard working MAN who knows how to treat me over a Bentley driving jokah with a questionable occupation who treats me like I’m expendable ANYday! lol
Single in the South
Wednesday, 15th April 2009 at 1:38 PM
It’s not just the North. I’m a woman living in a small-to-medium-sized midwestern city, and it’s hard to find a man who makes as much as or more than I do. Why is this necessary? Same reason doctors get good at sniffing out “gold diggers.” After playing sugar mama to two guys, one of whom worked in food service, and the other, manual labor, let me assure you- income equality is a MUST. Even with the best of intentions, I find without fail they will begin to take advantage of you, and start feeling entitled to a free ride. You may be eating sandwiches for lunch to build up a savings account, but he’s eating out for lunch every day and not paying you a red cent for crashing at your place 6 nights a week.
MS Yellow G.R.I.T.S (girls raised in the south)
Thursday, 16th April 2009 at 5:56 AM
hmmmm…… Mr. Southern Comfort, where do I start…….. I’m not goin to say that the issue is really the women from the north and things they want from and in their men….. For the longest time I dated and only dated guys from NY, just because the SWAG (as you say) had me gone! The guys from NY had a 2layered brick wall up, that I just really got tired of breaking down brick by brick!!!! ANY woman, regardless of geographical location, wants to ‘be in’ and not fighting to be a part of your life……. Maybe it’s the friendliness of the smiling faces on every block in the south that just make the men here more willing to let you if in………..
By the way Single in the North, the men here in the south, they ain’t big on open doors and all that shyt either……. (Trust when I say Ive been coined high maint. and all that and I’m SOOOOOOO far from that) Some will look @ you like you crazy……. However ‘chilvary is not dead’ in all of them……..
Mr. Southern Comfort
Thursday, 16th April 2009 at 10:46 AM
Chilvary is Not Dead I like that quote!! It in fact was one of my Status’ for myspace back in the day! Nice Ms “YELLO” grits!
Charlie Barley
Thursday, 16th April 2009 at 10:57 AM
Ok here is my 2 cents…
I grew up and lived in NY and for the past 10yrs in “da Saaouth”. It’s a catch 22 at the end of the day. The difference between The North and South in general is approach. North is more direct – South slips you a sugar pill before the bottomline. Northern women are direct and it’s cute until the line is cross – “oh you aint give me nuthing this month”. Same with the south all that sweet shit is great until you realize she got you hooked on the food and sex and has manipulated you into submission.
MS Yellow G.R.I.T.S (girls raised in the south)
Thursday, 16th April 2009 at 6:39 PM
hmmmm manipulated into submission or just enjoying the feeling of being treated good all the way around??????
Livin in tha South & Married
Friday, 17th April 2009 at 10:21 AM
I have not ever lived in the North…but I think the problem here is, no matter what region you live in why is it expected that a woman cant wait to find the man that she truly deserves. So many woman i really believe just “settle”. Why is it a man who works a 40 week and a woman who also works that 40 week is then expected to come home and cook, clean, and tend to the children. I think men need to start steppin up to the plate and realizing that the plate is 50/50. Help me to help you out!
Blaqryne
Sunday, 31st May 2009 at 8:45 AM
I read about the NYC Norhtern Women and its not that they want ballers i am from the bronx there’s alot of women in the city that search for good brothers and some find them, there not so independent that they don’t reconize a true man. Now on the other had i wrote a book The Humpty Dumpty Theory AND IT HAS ALOT OF WOMEN FROM THE A SOUUTH who try to fix some of the sorriest men i ever seen?? And then wounder why they cheat or Disrespect them but like i see it , it is what it is NOw i am onley speaking about hte women i have seen in San Antonio,Tx Sad state of mind here. Blaqryne
NY's Finest
Tuesday, 28th July 2009 at 3:23 PM
Mr. SC, it’d make more sense if you’d comment on things that you actually do KNOW about. There are a lot of single women in NY because of the MEN in NY. Here’s a thought, Demographics. Men in the south are more inclined to be family oriented. If they don’t go off to college or the military after HS they get a job, get married and start a family. Not so for the men up North. Single men that have a legit job, know how to treat a woman and aren’t self-proclaimed pimps are a hot commodity in NY (and everywhere else for that matter). They love the night life, the women and the non-committence of bachelorhood. Once they’ve indulged in this life, it’s hard for them to settle down because they think they may miss the “ho-train” for one last ride. Hence, the brick wall. (Thanks, Ms Yellow GRITS. You were right on point with that statement). For us educated women that work hard, play hard and make our own dough; I say why settle?
We know what we bring to the table and we know we can cook slammin greens and make sweet tea as good as any Southern Belle (ok, at least I can) so reserve the right to be selective. Mr. Right is out there…just don’t count on him being a NYer, though.