“My Boyfriend” vs “My Man”
Women who get hit on are often forced to answer the question:
“Are you single?”
To which you answer, whether its true or not:
“No, I have a boyfriend.”
Well, recently I gave that answer to a clearly older man whose comeback kinda left me stumped.
“That’s a problem. You got a boyfriend. What you need is a man. No real man wants to be called a boyfriend. You should be calling him your man. Ask him what he wants to be called. He’ll tell you.”
Since there was no “boyfriend” to ask I was left thinking about it for a while.
I’ve always called the guy I’m in a relationship with my “boyfriend”. For some reason I consider saying “my man” somewhat ghetto. Its cool as a rotating label. Something you throw out in common conversation.
“SG, what you do last weekend?”
“Me and my man went to the movies.”
That’s cool but to refer to him only as “my man” is a bit much.
I’ve played around with other title likes;
“My Significant Other”
“My Future Ex-Husband”
“My Pipe Slayer”
You get the drift. Still, I keep coming back to “boyfriend”.
Wikipedia’s definition further complicates things:
A boyfriend is a person’s regular male companion in a romantic or sexual relationship, which falls short of a long-term committed (eg. marital) relationship. On the other hand, the term “boy friend” (or in some areas “guy friend”) can refer to a male non-romantic and non-sexual friend.
Women don’t seem to have a problem with being call a “girlfriend” although most guys shorten it to “my gurl” or “wifey” (the later of which I am so opposed to).
I don’t plan on being single forever. You won’t catch me being 50 walking around calling my lovers “my boyfriend”. Most old people with sense call those they are with “my friend” thats code for “yeah we old but we still smash”.
Eventually the only title that I’ll be using is “my husband”. Doesn’t that have a nice ring to it?