Comments on: “Jesus Broke Up My Marriage”

By: crystal

crystal — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 18:13:58 +0000

dear saysthesingle girl,
i do realize that you’re a busy woman and newly booed-up but do know that i miss your daily (okay, weekly. alright, sometimes biweekly) musings. please come back. that is all.

crystal

By: Charles in Germany

Charles in Germany — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 11:24:04 +0000

In this same situation.Was together with a woman 30 years(married 27).She went through pure HELL with me/for me/because of me,especially with my problems with Alcohol,and living and working in Germany (non-military oriented) HAS NOT always been easy.Still,She couldn`t take it when I found a Full Gospel Deliverance Ministry and gave my life to the Lord.She went on-line and found her some new *stuff* and moved out to be with him 3 years later.We`ve been seperated 2 years now and divorced 1.All because of Jesus?? Who really loses in such a situation.I didn´t!

By: DC Man with a Plan

DC Man with a Plan — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 18:42:10 +0000

Come on ladies, marriage minded ppl can be tolerant and adjust to a myriad of problems that will crop up in a relationship, religion being just ONE issue. Couples work thru adultery, drug use, job loss, lying and all types of B/S, so I don’t know WHY y’all thinkin bcuz dude is turnin into a holy roller, all of a sudden, all bets are off. It’s a pretty shallow marriage if they can’t withstand a little acrimony and disharmony. There are men that haven’t been broken off for more than a hot minute–and they’re still there, paying mortgage and being faithful until ol’girl comes around. Give ppl a little more credit. Have more confidence in your fellow ladies! AND Thank God not all women are bitter and negative! lmao

By: Suzanne

Suzanne — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 02:00:51 +0000

Depending on how big this change is for Manny, I say GetAGrip is right. Religion is a dealbreaker. One person having it and the other person not is just too deep a rift if the non-relgious person doesn’t even support the idea.

I once dated a former youth minister. When we met I told him I wasn’t religious and wasn’t planning to be. He said ok. It was, for a while. But then he reformed his relationship with God and I didn’t fit into his life anymore because that’s something we could not share.

I hope he and his wife can work it out, but if she’s not interested in going to church, no dice.

By: GetAGrip

GetAGrip — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 16:09:22 +0000

Being (becoming) santified and filled with the Holy Ghost is a totally different lifestyle than not. And if your wife/husband suddenly adapts this way of life I do not believe the marriage could work. There are too many changes the one in church will begin to succumb to and the party that is not going to join along will begin to feel it.

It you two are used to going out after-work, getting a drink, hanging out with friends at a lounge type environment. That will change. The premise os cursing will surely change. So if your used to a ’shit’ ‘fuck’ every so often that won’t go over well with the more spiritual one.
Then comes the issue of ‘well my Pastor said…’ with every problem they have in the marriage.
Some people believe that their Pastor can do no wrong, say nothing that’s foul. And that their Pastor is holier than thou.
The lifestyles are just very different.

Hell, when my mother turned her life over to God I was a bit annoyed. Because the mom that would sit and have a drink with me, the mom who I could call and express myself freely with a few ‘minor’ curses thrown in, the mom who didn’t pass judgement was now a different woman. It is very hard to get used to. And I’ll say ‘can I speak to my ‘other’ mom’, lol! And she’ll know what I mean. But its different. Because I have to respect her and her beliefs so I can’t really go in like I want to. And when I call her about my issues, I get tired of hearing “well in 1st Corinthians 6:1-5 says……” Like no mom, not again, lol!

So I’m sure that multiplies when your married to the person.

Bottom line, imo, either someone will turn their life over to God, or they will go their seperate ways. God is a jealous God and wants no other before him.

By: DC Man with a Plan

DC Man with a Plan — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 15:12:21 +0000

Change can be demanding on relationships, but unless there has been an extreme change, Manny and his lady ought to be able to get it together because MOST religious institutions hope to strengthen marriages, not tear them apart. NOW, if Manny belongs to some fringe, extremist religious institution, that a totally different situation. Growth is inevitable if you live long enuff, but hopefully “partners for life” can accommodate and be understanding with their significant other. On the other hand, if you and your spouse were drug using swingers, and you decide to STOP and get “saved” that could bring about insurmountable problems bcuz that’s a 360 degree change and it may be more than one relationship can over-come. Anything else and two willing partners can make it happen, especially once kids are involved and the partners become older and wiser.