Comments on: If Jesus Could Wife a Whore, Why Can’t You Wife a Lady with a Baby?

By: sylkiifeather

sylkiifeather — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 03:06:25 +0000

I MUST SAY THAT AS A SINGLE WOMAN, IT IS HARD TO FIND A MAN WITHOUT A KID. I HAVE TRIED DATING SEVERAL MEN WITH KIDS AND IT IS HARD. SOMETIMES THERE IS DRAMA. SOMETIMES, IT IS HARD TO GET TIME AND ATTENTION. I KNOW WHAT I WANT IN A RELATIONSHIP. AND I DONT WANT TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A MAN WHO WILL ALWAYS HAVE ANOTHER WOMAN IN HIS LIFE WHO WILL ALWAYS SHARE THAT SPECIAL BOND WITH HIM. I DONT WANT A READY-MADE FAMILY. I AM SPEAKING FROM MY PAST PERSONAL EXPERIENCES. AND THIS MIGHT SOUND BAD…BUT THE REALITY IS, KIDS ARE BAGGAGE. RELATIONSHIPS ARE HARD AS IT IS WITHOUT ADDING THAT INTO THE MIX.

By: Kinyetta

Kinyetta — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 19:31:12 +0000

I am a single mother with two gifts from God, and I myself have run across some guys who think that the ground I walk on is cursed!! I work, am in school and have my own place! Guys turn the other way when they see the “Baby on Board” sticker I have in my window. My childrens father is not in the picture and there are some women who have made it awfully hard for a woman like me, with the late night booty calls from baby dizzle… I refuse to settle for anything that may come my way because he is of the opposite sex. There are standards that I have, and yes I don’t care that I have children, I know there is someone out there just for me.. Not all guys are losers!!

By: MilliLilli

MilliLilli — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 18:38:03 +0000

I am a 28 year old college grad single mom of a 2 year daughter , independent, successful career, my own house, my own car that is paid for, materially don’t want for nothing me or my daughter. But the only thing I’m lacking is a relationship with a man. My daughter’s father isn’t in the picture, and when he was around, I was dating a guy that I thought would be understanding of the situation, I never hid anything nor showed that I had feelings for my ex but yet he felt since we had a child together we were going to get back together (Which you couldn’t pay me Oprah’s money to get back with him).

When that situation happen I was very disappointed and it has left a sour taste in my mouth for guys that don’t have kids, I really am not wanting to date them. The next time I’m ever in a relationship I feel as though I would have better luck with someone that has a child too.

Just my opinion on my experience.

By: Alyson

Alyson — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 22:43:14 +0000

I am a single mother and I am dating a wonderful man who respects and loves my son and I. This blog only deals with one side of the story.

By: Moe

Moe — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 02:41:00 +0000

I am single and do not have any children, but have dated men with children and to be completely honest I prefer to be with someone without the baggage. Not only do women look for men to be a father figure, but men do the same thing. There are men looking for mother figures for their children. Maybe I’m selfish, but I prefer to have children with someone who has none like myself. It seems like less of headache to build a family together with someone rather than dealing with the outside drama. If one day I have children and meet someone else with children than thats cool, but for now I want someone just like me.

By: Ciera

Ciera — Fri, 29 May 2009 19:08:03 +0000

Wow….. the comments are funny. I happen to be a single mother of two and very sucessful however when it comes to dating it’s headache! Im a very agressive woman so im
upfront most of the time about my life and I get alot of sensitive pussies they want to know you and your kids but their not equipped with the strength part of it so they get (intimedated) by the situation and im the woman that need to be put in my place if I get to carried away . The comments some of the fellas made on here are rediculous however it’s opinion but its still the bitch way out ! and im saying it with no editing ,for us and thats single parents in general it three times harder because people don’t want to take the time to know what happened they suspect alreay that you have multiple baby papas or your unstable or too hood for your own good ! lol We don’t all want fathers for our children we just want to be a tad bit happier. In my case I have young children a boy and girl and the fathewr is no longer in the picture at all as in gone in the wind and this was a person i was married to for four years , and so it would be wonderful to have a stern male figure who wouldn’t mind showing my son what a man should be and a responsible one at that as well as my daughter it just goes to show people aren’t ready and are all about the superficial so those like us will have to wait a little while longer for the right one to come along , but they will.

By: FL_Lady

FL_Lady — Fri, 29 May 2009 17:37:29 +0000

The comments here are very telling about the character of the people posting them. I, a single mother of 4, am in a relationship with a man who isn’t father to my children. It works, because he isn’t small-minded; he knows that I had a life before him, and that I have made choices, which he doesn’t judge as “good” or “bad”. He just accepts me for who I am; a mother raising her children to be the best they can be, while loving a good man. We are woman; it’s our nature to multi-task. Love isn’t finite, nor is the love you have for a man the same you would have for your children. Those of you with a bad taste in their mouths on the subject have probably dated women who weren’t of the proper character to begin with, and NOT having a child wouldn’t have improved that aspect in any way; it would simply keep it under wraps until AFTER the wedding night, thereby making it cheaper to keep ‘er, as they say. Long and short, you need to assess a person’s CHARACTER, not their circumstance. Plus, those of you men griping here probably aren’t the sort of men who would make positive influences on kids, so it’s probably best you keep it movin’ to the childless woman who’s probably childless due to medical intervention. I’m prochoice and life, which is why I CHOOSE to live as a (currently)single mother of FOUR. We’re planning a wedding for next June. Life is what you make it.

By: jaysta1

jaysta1 — Fri, 29 May 2009 03:24:22 +0000

I’m a single father & I know how hard it is to find someone to be with & not have the stigma thats attatched. I prefer to date women with children because they know the types of things that parents go through & they tend to be more understanding. I have been in situations where the woman was looking for someone to take care of her & her kid, but thats not the norm.

By: Charlie Barley

Charlie Barley — Thu, 28 May 2009 21:39:35 +0000

Yea the kid thing is for the birds. It’ll definitely take a lot more effort to stay on the same page. Relationships already have enough issues to consider – and a kid isnt and “issue” it’s a living being. Not saying it cant work but damn who wants to be second place. Having a child with someone should be the most sacred intimate thing – now in the delivery I’m thinking Joe Blow got to experience this too! UGH so WACK!!!!!!

By: Durras

Durras — Thu, 28 May 2009 19:16:07 +0000

Take it from me dating a woman with a child already is a waste of time. I did it and lived to regret it.
To all the single brothas out there, find a woman whose life isn’t already ruined, and isn’t trying to share the grief. You’ll live a happier and richer life.