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If Jesus Could Wife a Whore, Why Can’t You Wife a Lady with a Baby?

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Talk about double standards.

There are folks who are single, yearning to be coupled up yet scoff at the idea of dating a perfect candidate just because he or she has kids. When compared to women, men (well the ones who care) are adamantly opposed to women with kids. The baby mama can be beautiful, smart, accomplished, body banging like a benzy but once he finds out she’s given the gift of life all their hopes gets flushed down the drain.

I love my boys, gods know I do but I wanna kill ‘em dead when they get to talking -ish about how regardless of how good the woman is, if she has a child he’s gone.

One friend in particular takes the cake.

He is handsome, smart, talented and single. He wants to be in a relationship but can’t seem to stop meeting great prospects…with kids.

“Manny, how do you know God isn’t sending you a woman who has a child on purpose?”

“I know God very well, he knows what I want. SG, do you know what happens when men date a woman with kids. Six months into she’s thinking of ways to get us to marry her so her bastard child can have a daddy. She tells you to meet her somewhere to hang out. You get there and this trick is standing in front of her kids school with the spawn.”

“You really think women are that desperate?”

“Now, you know that answer to that. Hell yes. One woman, she had potential, but she gonna invite me over for dinner with her kid there. You think I want to sit at the table with her kid giving me the mean eye?”

“But Manny, maybe God wants you to be with a woman with a kid because he feels you have great father-figure qualities.”

“God is my good friend. He and I have not talked about sending me a woman with a certified used womb.”

Folks, this goes on for hours.

“Manny, let me ask you this: If Jesus can wife a whore, why can’t you wife a lady with a baby?”

Silence.

SG (reppin’ baby mamas) – 1

Manny (and all the men who would eff but never wife a Baby Mama) – 0

Women who don’t like dating baby daddies often times let it slide cause they know that most of the time the kid/s aren’t going to be in their face and the biggest problem they’ll have to deal with is a crazy baby mama. Baby daddies are much more manageable than baby mamas.

Men aren’t consumed with looking for a good woman to bring around their kids like women are with finding great replacement daddies for their kids.

I understand Manny’s concerns but I also don’t believe in cutting your nose to spite your face.

Baby mamas and daddies are people too, fertile people, but people none the less.

- SG

19 Responses to “If Jesus Could Wife a Whore, Why Can’t You Wife a Lady with a Baby?”

  1. Cant get with it. We all have our qualifications and this is certainly one of mine.

  2. I have to agree with Dom;most men, unless they are single fathers themselves, wouldn’t date a woman with a kid or multiple kids because most men wouldn’t want
    1. A ready-made family
    2. Pressure from the mother to be a father-figure to the child
    3. Drama from the baby father being jealous that the new guy is with the mother
    4. Having to deal with whatever small amounts of attention he can get,given that the mother is committed to the welfare of the child
    5. Having to deal with whatever issues the child/children may had against the new guy for taking away the mother’s time, money and energy from the child/children

    Dating a single parent,regardless of gender, isn’t easy because,even if the parent is picture perfect, there’s alot of drama attached to them and you have to be a strong person to undergo all the drama.

  3. I’m a single and childless 30something woman from ‘down-under’. The last few dates and relationships have been with men with kids.

    I don’t have a special thing for men with kids at all… it’s just that childless, single, Polynesian men in New Zealand are hard to come by – in fact, pretty non-existent!

    My point though, is that all of them (despite having their own kids) said to me they wouldn’t be interested in me if I had children.

    That should have been a red flag right there!

    There are double standards for sure.

  4. Lanai…just about summed up how I feel on this…If I were to consider dating a woman with a kid…it could only be one…

  5. Everyone has a preference and although I am a mother of two I would want to be with someone who doesn’t have babies, maybe older kids,or no kids at all, but has experience with kids by spending time or helping raise them for friends or family. Alot of single mothers have made it bad for us though, by still creeping with baby daddy, letting him do pop ups at the crib just cause his child there, calling you all the time thinking he can still get it cause you baby momma and that’s free pussy rights for life. Lol…yall know what I’m saying. Basically allowing him to disrespect the relationship you and your man have. I think that’s why men tend to shy away from women with kids. But all of us not the same fellas!!!!

  6. Most women like myself aren’t looking for a father for their child, but merely looking for someone that is a good mate and understands what it means to be a good campion for the one who is asking for the relationship….yes its a double standard yes I’ve even seen it happen to me in real life….

    Because of men with narrow minds think like that are the reason we have the ratio we have now, that meaning that women out number men 10 to 1…

    So women like me, that have it all together arent looking for a father for the child/ren that we have we are looking for ourselves so the double standard exsist and is clearly subject to discrimination…

  7. Thank you Cee-Cee !!

  8. I totally agree with your comment ……… well put : )

    Oh and sawri about the extra E’s . Lol

  9. Take it from me dating a woman with a child already is a waste of time. I did it and lived to regret it.
    To all the single brothas out there, find a woman whose life isn’t already ruined, and isn’t trying to share the grief. You’ll live a happier and richer life.

  10. Yea the kid thing is for the birds. It’ll definitely take a lot more effort to stay on the same page. Relationships already have enough issues to consider – and a kid isnt and “issue” it’s a living being. Not saying it cant work but damn who wants to be second place. Having a child with someone should be the most sacred intimate thing – now in the delivery I’m thinking Joe Blow got to experience this too! UGH so WACK!!!!!!

  11. I’m a single father & I know how hard it is to find someone to be with & not have the stigma thats attatched. I prefer to date women with children because they know the types of things that parents go through & they tend to be more understanding. I have been in situations where the woman was looking for someone to take care of her & her kid, but thats not the norm.

  12. The comments here are very telling about the character of the people posting them. I, a single mother of 4, am in a relationship with a man who isn’t father to my children. It works, because he isn’t small-minded; he knows that I had a life before him, and that I have made choices, which he doesn’t judge as “good” or “bad”. He just accepts me for who I am; a mother raising her children to be the best they can be, while loving a good man. We are woman; it’s our nature to multi-task. Love isn’t finite, nor is the love you have for a man the same you would have for your children. Those of you with a bad taste in their mouths on the subject have probably dated women who weren’t of the proper character to begin with, and NOT having a child wouldn’t have improved that aspect in any way; it would simply keep it under wraps until AFTER the wedding night, thereby making it cheaper to keep ‘er, as they say. Long and short, you need to assess a person’s CHARACTER, not their circumstance. Plus, those of you men griping here probably aren’t the sort of men who would make positive influences on kids, so it’s probably best you keep it movin’ to the childless woman who’s probably childless due to medical intervention. I’m prochoice and life, which is why I CHOOSE to live as a (currently)single mother of FOUR. We’re planning a wedding for next June. Life is what you make it.

  13. Wow….. the comments are funny. I happen to be a single mother of two and very sucessful however when it comes to dating it’s headache! Im a very agressive woman so im
    upfront most of the time about my life and I get alot of sensitive pussies they want to know you and your kids but their not equipped with the strength part of it so they get (intimedated) by the situation and im the woman that need to be put in my place if I get to carried away . The comments some of the fellas made on here are rediculous however it’s opinion but its still the bitch way out ! and im saying it with no editing ,for us and thats single parents in general it three times harder because people don’t want to take the time to know what happened they suspect alreay that you have multiple baby papas or your unstable or too hood for your own good ! lol We don’t all want fathers for our children we just want to be a tad bit happier. In my case I have young children a boy and girl and the fathewr is no longer in the picture at all as in gone in the wind and this was a person i was married to for four years , and so it would be wonderful to have a stern male figure who wouldn’t mind showing my son what a man should be and a responsible one at that as well as my daughter it just goes to show people aren’t ready and are all about the superficial so those like us will have to wait a little while longer for the right one to come along , but they will.

  14. I am single and do not have any children, but have dated men with children and to be completely honest I prefer to be with someone without the baggage. Not only do women look for men to be a father figure, but men do the same thing. There are men looking for mother figures for their children. Maybe I’m selfish, but I prefer to have children with someone who has none like myself. It seems like less of headache to build a family together with someone rather than dealing with the outside drama. If one day I have children and meet someone else with children than thats cool, but for now I want someone just like me.

  15. I am a single mother and I am dating a wonderful man who respects and loves my son and I. This blog only deals with one side of the story.

  16. I am a 28 year old college grad single mom of a 2 year daughter , independent, successful career, my own house, my own car that is paid for, materially don’t want for nothing me or my daughter. But the only thing I’m lacking is a relationship with a man. My daughter’s father isn’t in the picture, and when he was around, I was dating a guy that I thought would be understanding of the situation, I never hid anything nor showed that I had feelings for my ex but yet he felt since we had a child together we were going to get back together (Which you couldn’t pay me Oprah’s money to get back with him).

    When that situation happen I was very disappointed and it has left a sour taste in my mouth for guys that don’t have kids, I really am not wanting to date them. The next time I’m ever in a relationship I feel as though I would have better luck with someone that has a child too.

    Just my opinion on my experience.

  17. I am a single mother with two gifts from God, and I myself have run across some guys who think that the ground I walk on is cursed!! I work, am in school and have my own place! Guys turn the other way when they see the “Baby on Board” sticker I have in my window. My childrens father is not in the picture and there are some women who have made it awfully hard for a woman like me, with the late night booty calls from baby dizzle… I refuse to settle for anything that may come my way because he is of the opposite sex. There are standards that I have, and yes I don’t care that I have children, I know there is someone out there just for me.. Not all guys are losers!!

  18. I MUST SAY THAT AS A SINGLE WOMAN, IT IS HARD TO FIND A MAN WITHOUT A KID. I HAVE TRIED DATING SEVERAL MEN WITH KIDS AND IT IS HARD. SOMETIMES THERE IS DRAMA. SOMETIMES, IT IS HARD TO GET TIME AND ATTENTION. I KNOW WHAT I WANT IN A RELATIONSHIP. AND I DONT WANT TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A MAN WHO WILL ALWAYS HAVE ANOTHER WOMAN IN HIS LIFE WHO WILL ALWAYS SHARE THAT SPECIAL BOND WITH HIM. I DONT WANT A READY-MADE FAMILY. I AM SPEAKING FROM MY PAST PERSONAL EXPERIENCES. AND THIS MIGHT SOUND BAD…BUT THE REALITY IS, KIDS ARE BAGGAGE. RELATIONSHIPS ARE HARD AS IT IS WITHOUT ADDING THAT INTO THE MIX.

  19. Only beta-males who don’t have sense and are desperate/stupid decide to date single moms. Or married moms. Or any kind of mom. Most aren’t even fuckable due to weight or being a smoker or whatever, but even the ones that are attractive enough to be fuckable aren’t worth committing to. It’s not my place to pick up the slack.

    That is all. It really is that simple.


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