“I Call Her My Fianceé Because She’s More Than My Girlfriend”
If you ever want to know what’s on the mind of a man go out to dinner with a bunch of guys. About an hour into it, you will start to hear their crazy rationale, doggish behavior and insecurities.
The keys to making this work: liquor, good food and great company. You can’t jump down their throat or start with your “I’m a strong woman and I don’t stand for x, y, z…” crap cause they’ll clam up.
Another key is to have more men than women present. More men means they have people to back them up in their P.O.V . If there were more women, the guys present would feel the need to defend themselves and the whole thing would turn into a battle of the sexes tennis match.
Last night I had dinner with 11 men. I was one of three women and we all peed our pants from the stuff that was coming out of their mouths.
The conversation really picked up when we started talking about how to end a relationship .
“Send a text,” said one 29 year old guy, who claimed to have 12 lady “associates”. I didn’t know people still used that word.
“Question is, how long they been together. If it’s a couple months you go over to their house, have a cab waiting out front. Knock on the door but don’t cross the threshold and say ‘This isn’t working’ and leave. Whatever you do, don’t let them start with, ‘Let’s talk about it.’ If they do, you’re done for.” The gentleman who said this was in his early 40′s and has been in a relationship for four years.
So I inquired about his relationship and where he saw it going.
“Oh, we’re very strong. She is a good woman. I love her and haven’t cheated once.”
“Are you going to get married?” I asked.
“So you’re engaged?”
“No but I call her my fiancée because she’s more than my girlfriend.”
“Are you serious?!? Just get the woman a ring already. Please don’t tell me you introduce her as your fiancée and she has no ring on her finger.”
“Of course I do. She doesn’t like the word ‘girlfriend’ so I say fiancée.”
“You know, your making her look like a damn idiot. When you say to me ‘ SG, meet my fiancée’ the first thing I’m gonna do is say hello and look to see the rock. When there isn’t one I’m looking at the both of you like you’re liars.”
“How you know she didn’t leave it at home?”
“No woman would leave her ring, a ring she been after for years at home especially at an event where she knows she’s going to be introduced to new people.”
“Damn SG, you got all the answers, huh?”
“Get that woman a ring asap!”
“Damn, are you her legal representation?”
“No, but I’m saying you need to stop calling her your fiancée when she isn’t. You know that an engagement ring is a legally binding contract. It shows you have real intentions.”
“SG, the next time she and I have this exact argument I’m gonna check to see if you are in the closet cause you sound just like her.”
“Seriously, what’s holding you back? Just get her the ring.”
“You’re right. I should. I’m going to start shopping around. You think I could get something nice for $3,000?”
“Absolutely. Get a princess cut cause it makes the stone look bigger then say round or oval.”
“You know once you get her that ring, she is going to want to get married in like a year.”
“I know! That’s what I’m afraid of.”