Comments on: Dear SG: Should I Celebrate My One Year Anniversary? http://saysthesinglegirl.com/2009/dear-sg-should-i-celebrate-my-one-year-anniversary/ Wed, 28 Jul 2010 01:15:58 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Sunny Dee http://saysthesinglegirl.com/2009/dear-sg-should-i-celebrate-my-one-year-anniversary/comment-page-1/#comment-1772 Sunny Dee Mon, 15 Jun 2009 14:57:03 +0000 http://saysthesinglegirl.com/?p=427#comment-1772 I'm with SG on this one, there is no room for celebration but this is a good time for evaluation. You might do an intimate dinner or day in the park or whatever and have a good conversation to say "it's been a year of us playing around and I'd like to see it go...(Insert your expectations here)". Men will take advantage of our silence as women and in the meantime we like to kid ourselves into believing we're just patiently waiting. I’m with SG on this one, there is no room for celebration but this is a good time for evaluation. You might do an intimate dinner or day in the park or whatever and have a good conversation to say “it’s been a year of us playing around and I’d like to see it go…(Insert your expectations here)”. Men will take advantage of our silence as women and in the meantime we like to kid ourselves into believing we’re just patiently waiting.

]]> By: Dom http://saysthesinglegirl.com/2009/dear-sg-should-i-celebrate-my-one-year-anniversary/comment-page-1/#comment-1712 Dom Tue, 02 Jun 2009 18:22:02 +0000 http://saysthesinglegirl.com/?p=427#comment-1712 *Sigh* This is our generation. Bet I could tell you to a ‘T’ the exact age, race, and geographical location of One Year Later. She sounds like I did a few months ago. Good points were made on both sides. Yes, women can be haters but they can also offer some sage advice if you dig through the jealousy and really hear the message. I think its all in how you feel. No, I certainly wouldn’t play myself talking about an anniversary (after all by your own words he’s not your boyfriend), but I would take some time out to re-evaluate what’s going on with you two. It’s been a year and he is playing games with the title. Is this where you thought you’d be 365 days in to it? Have you met any of his friends or family? Has he met yours? How do you know he’s exclusive with you? Does he tell other women he meets that he is dating someone exclusively? All pertinent questions. If you can answer those questions honestly and you LIKE the answer you have, then by all means, proceed {And even then I would still urge you to put a time table on how much longer you’re willing to be in a situationship} But if you don’t like the answers you come up with, find someone else who can give you what you want. Trust me, he’s out there. *Sigh* This is our generation. Bet I could tell you to a ‘T’ the exact age, race, and geographical location of One Year Later. She sounds like I did a few months ago.

Good points were made on both sides. Yes, women can be haters but they can also offer some sage advice if you dig through the jealousy and really hear the message.

I think its all in how you feel. No, I certainly wouldn’t play myself talking about an anniversary (after all by your own words he’s not your boyfriend), but I would take some time out to re-evaluate what’s going on with you two. It’s been a year and he is playing games with the title. Is this where you thought you’d be 365 days in to it? Have you met any of his friends or family? Has he met yours? How do you know he’s exclusive with you? Does he tell other women he meets that he is dating someone exclusively? All pertinent questions.

If you can answer those questions honestly and you LIKE the answer you have, then by all means, proceed {And even then I would still urge you to put a time table on how
much longer you’re willing to be in a situationship}

But if you don’t like the answers you come up with, find someone else who can give you what you want. Trust me, he’s out there.

]]> By: Charlie Barley http://saysthesinglegirl.com/2009/dear-sg-should-i-celebrate-my-one-year-anniversary/comment-page-1/#comment-1709 Charlie Barley Tue, 02 Jun 2009 13:54:38 +0000 http://saysthesinglegirl.com/?p=427#comment-1709 I'm with SG to a certain extent. Shorty needs to evaluate whats really going on with them as far as where it's headed. Our culture is now addicted to a fast-and-furious mindset. "if x doesnt happen by Y time then f - it". That's wack and not reality...what happen to progression and growth...geez it's only been a year. In "adult time" a year aint shit. Yung&viral also made a good point....SG excluded....I've found that "seasoned-single women" are a cancer to each other - crabs in a barrel if you will..they natural cant help but hate...until there in the same situation then "It's OK - I got this!"...LMAO I’m with SG to a certain extent. Shorty needs to evaluate whats really going on with them as far as where it’s headed. Our culture is now addicted to a fast-and-furious mindset. “if x doesnt happen by Y time then f – it”. That’s wack and not reality…what happen to progression and growth…geez it’s only been a year. In “adult time” a year aint shit.

Yung&viral also made a good point….SG excluded….I’ve found that “seasoned-single women” are a cancer to each other – crabs in a barrel if you will..they natural cant help but hate…until there in the same situation then “It’s OK – I got this!”…LMAO

]]> By: yung&viral http://saysthesinglegirl.com/2009/dear-sg-should-i-celebrate-my-one-year-anniversary/comment-page-1/#comment-1708 yung&viral Tue, 02 Jun 2009 02:27:20 +0000 http://saysthesinglegirl.com/?p=427#comment-1708 I'm puzzled why all of you are telling hone to move on, what type of shit is that. If they been dating for a year and things are well, by all means have a lil celebration if you and him care for each other. Don't have to be over the top. All you people on here making it seem like its either all or nothing. Young lady, do you, take it for what it is and enjoy yourself, when you get tired of the situation you will move on. Don't listen to all these "single" and "lonely" ass women telling you to move on cuzz you a jumpoff, if sex is good and you and dude rocking there is nothing wrong, ask some of these women on here when is the last time they had a guy stick around for a year "j.o" or otherwise. Lastly, nothing corny, and don't expect something in return, celebrate because you want to and it makes you feel good, him second lol.... I’m puzzled why all of you are telling hone to move on, what type of shit is that. If they been dating for a year and things are well, by all means have a lil celebration if you and him care for each other. Don’t have to be over the top. All you people on here making it seem like its either all or nothing. Young lady, do you, take it for what it is and enjoy yourself, when you get tired of the situation you will move on. Don’t listen to all these “single” and “lonely” ass women telling you to move on cuzz you a jumpoff, if sex is good and you and dude rocking there is nothing wrong, ask some of these women on here when is the last time they had a guy stick around for a year “j.o” or otherwise. Lastly, nothing corny, and don’t expect something in return, celebrate because you want to and it makes you feel good, him second lol….

]]> By: steels magnolia http://saysthesinglegirl.com/2009/dear-sg-should-i-celebrate-my-one-year-anniversary/comment-page-1/#comment-1706 steels magnolia Mon, 01 Jun 2009 22:04:36 +0000 http://saysthesinglegirl.com/?p=427#comment-1706 wow. move on love. MOVE ON wow. move on love. MOVE ON

]]> By: Vegas_Rican http://saysthesinglegirl.com/2009/dear-sg-should-i-celebrate-my-one-year-anniversary/comment-page-1/#comment-1703 Vegas_Rican Mon, 01 Jun 2009 17:00:47 +0000 http://saysthesinglegirl.com/?p=427#comment-1703 To finish 100K's last line...if I may - ...NOT Checkers ;) To finish 100K’s last line…if I may -

…NOT Checkers ;)

]]> By: Vegas_Rican http://saysthesinglegirl.com/2009/dear-sg-should-i-celebrate-my-one-year-anniversary/comment-page-1/#comment-1702 Vegas_Rican Mon, 01 Jun 2009 16:59:09 +0000 http://saysthesinglegirl.com/?p=427#comment-1702 Great Post! Dear "No Love", How do you answer "No I don't have a boyfriend" and in the next breath talk about an anniversary? I am 199% co-signing with STSG! You are blocking your blessings hanging on to this man. Let him go and you will find that you won't even have to "look" for true love. He will find you! Now ween yourself off that "good dick" and DO YOU! -The Vegas Rican AKA @ChinaBoricua Great Post!
Dear “No Love”,
How do you answer “No I don’t have a boyfriend” and in the next breath talk about an anniversary? I am 199% co-signing with STSG! You are blocking your blessings hanging on to this man. Let him go and you will find that you won’t even have to “look” for true love. He will find you! Now ween yourself off that “good dick” and DO YOU!
-The Vegas Rican AKA @ChinaBoricua

]]> By: 100K http://saysthesinglegirl.com/2009/dear-sg-should-i-celebrate-my-one-year-anniversary/comment-page-1/#comment-1701 100K Mon, 01 Jun 2009 16:53:58 +0000 http://saysthesinglegirl.com/?p=427#comment-1701 Sorry sweetheart, Sounds like an extended jumpoff relationship. You shoulda known after about 8 months or so. I give him props for not saying he loved you because a lotta guys do say that just to get some ass.It seems like if he's gettin' the ass for a while now, there's no incentive for him to see what else there is to your dynamic with him. It's chess Sorry sweetheart,

Sounds like an extended jumpoff relationship. You shoulda known after about 8 months or so.

I give him props for not saying he loved you because a lotta guys do say that just to get some ass.It seems like if he’s gettin’ the ass for a while now, there’s no incentive for him to see what else there is to your dynamic with him.

It’s chess

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