Comments on: Are You the Dummy in This Relationship?

By: Shania

Shania — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 03:30:29 +0000

personally bear talks i think you are pretty ignorant to say that. “You ladies” sounds as bad as “You people” in reference to black people. I understand that some women are that way. Some men are too. Don’t generalize please. Now in terms of attracting what we want that isn’t always true. a woman can know exactly what she wants but not know how to get it. Women often times, me included, started out with a laissez-faire love policy and through trial and error we imporperly trained ourselves to get what we want. it’s a never ending cycle it seems. in EVERY situation we women must look at situations for what they are, see our involvement in them, work on it if the future deems it worthy, if not let it go but take the lessons.

By: Bear_traks

Bear_traks — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 23:28:34 +0000

You ladies kill me. You say you”want a good man” then when you get them you decide you just gotta test us. You attract exactly what you want. Stop getting that messed up please. Us “sharpest knives in the dishwasher” are nerdy, generally wear glasses, are strong, boy scout type to the max, but you take our kindness for weakness. We’re “too old, too this or too that”, anything with an excuse that really hides the truth about what I generally see in women. YOU DON’T ANY REAL MAN THAT’S GOING TO DO YOU ANY REAL GOOD. When it’s good, ya’ll self-destructing and starting drama that doesn’t need to exist. If people stop trying to change each other and move forward together, you’d be alright. Remember, you attract exactly what you want to attract.
Signed,
One of the more sharper knives in this dishwasher.

By: N.S. Ugezene

N.S. Ugezene — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 04:27:25 +0000

Honestly, someone that isn’t in the know about the things they say should be known is often the one who has some talent they’ve been hiding or don’t want people to know about. Many people play dumb because they don’t want to be labeled as “square.” Some people even play dumb because they don’t want people askinfg them all the intellectual questions or referring to them for advice. Being intelligent can be a burden or annoyance for some people.

By: MsJ

MsJ — Sun, 31 May 2009 01:07:09 +0000

This is a great article. It had me laughing and gasping at the same time. There has to be a middle somewhere though.

I have a degree in a biological science and am currently dating someone that didn’t finish high school (I didn’t know it in the beginning). He’s also not up with technology when it comes to a computer and everything that comes with it (email, IM etc – although he knows how to get on it to place a bet!). I have a blackberry so that’s a HUGE gap.

But, he can hold his own conversation with anyone that I know and works hard to keep a good-benefits-paying job.

It does get frustrating when we’re discussing topics that I KNOW I know the facts of and he’s based his conversation on ignorant assumptions but, what man isn’t like that no matter what his education level? I take my son to the barbershop so I hear the stupid reasonings that go on all the time.

But he keeps me laughing and for today, it’s good enough. Who knows about tomorrow…

By: Dom

Dom — Thu, 28 May 2009 16:07:14 +0000

Permed her hair? I swear, I read your posts and my mouth falls to my desk! That’s some ridiculous shit. I don’t think it’s dumb exactly, but it is pathetic and desperate. On both his AND her part.

As far as the control issue, I think we’ve all been there. Every relationship has to find a balance of control between both parties. But dating a man you have to control and think for is tiring. And I agree w/ Soulsistah that it makes breaking up ten times more difficult (if not dangerous) because that person feels dependent on you. You can’t truly love a man you feel sorry for. Been there once, not going to do it again.