Always the Baby Mama But Never the Bride
You thought you were set for life. You popped out the seeds of a NBA multi-million dollar man. You know him better than he knows himself. Your break up two years ago wasn’t anything that you thought would last forever. Then one day you get a text from him, not a phone call, in person visit but a freaking text saying “I’m getting married soon…want the kids to meet my new wife.”
Welcome to the life of Liza Morales, Lamar Odom’s ex.
Men are insensitive bastards. Their rationale: I don’t want to hurt her or get in a fight so this text will spare both of us. If you haven’t noticed, men are very passive aggressive, they hate conflict so they do stuff like send text messages or fall off the face of the earth, which in turn just makes things worse.
For Liza Morales, Lamar Odom’s ex/baby mama, news of his wedding to Khloe Kardashian must have felt like a dagger in the heart. It was reported that she threw his clothes out of her NYC apartment. I bet she went in like Angela Bassett in Waiting to Exhale.
Celebrity or not, Khloe and Lamar getting married after dating for one month is a shocker. I believe in love at first sight but I also believe that people get married for all of the wrong reasons. Society has devalued the sanctity of marriage and now two people who have a strong like for one another will walk down the aisle long before two people who have a real connection, deep love, children, house, car, dog and a shared bank account.
Baby mama’s always get the bad end of the deal. They’re thinking they’ve put in real time, football numbers if you will, only to be dumped and replaced with someone younger, sexier and most times kid free.
Don’t believe it, let’s look at the president of the “Baby Mama but Never a Bride” support group—Kim Porter.
Kim has been “with” Sean “I’m Never Getting Married” Combs for eons. She bore him three kids and his ghetto adopted her oldest son from Al B Sure! He dumped her for J. Lo and went back to her after J. Lo dumped him for almost getting her shot up and sent to jail.
With Ms. Fat Booty out of the picture, Kim thought that her time had come. She was on his right arm, walking red carpets even appearing on the cover of Essence to talk about their great and lasting love.
Eventually, she gave birth to twin girls in hopes of really locking it down or at least increasing her monthly child support stipend.
Did it work?
Diddy is parading around with Cassie.
Kim loses out yet again.
I hope she learned her lesson.
Some baby mama’s really deserve the ring, keyword being “some”. Many of them should have left long time ago but stuck it out, had more kids, dug their claws in deeper all because they didn’t want to admit that their relationship was toxic, going no where and they had spent X –number of years attached to a man that really wasn’t in it.
Whenever your ex leaves you and gets married to someone else it hurts. What hurts more than their moving on is realizing that all the time spent with you, all the I Love You’s, gifts, great sex didn’t mean enough for them to ask for your hand in marriage.
I’ve learned that when a man says he doesn’t want to get married or is afraid of commitment (going back to their passive aggressiveness) it means they don’t want to marry or commit to YOU.
As a woman with no kids, this is tough pill to swallow. Your ex that you thought you wanted to marry is gone and loving someone else. In your mind, you know you are the better woman and feel stupid for all you gave of yourself.
Take that emotion and multiply it by 1000 and that might be how a baby mama feels when her ex moves on and gets married. “How can I be good enough to be the mother of your children, but not be good enough to marry?”
Kids are nothing to play around with, which is why when folks as me why I don’t have kids I tell them, “Because I’m not married.”
For all the jilted baby mama’s of the world, this song is for you…