Always a Boyfriend, Never a Husband

We always take pity upon women who are always the bridesmaid and never the bride. 27 dresses drove that point home. The chick was in love with her boss, who fell for her sister and ended up pushing away a guy who did like her (he was actually a reporter doing a story on her sad sack life). In true Hollywood fashion, they end up together in the end.

I’m not talking about women who haven’t taken that walk down the aisle. This one goes out to the men in the world who don’t want to get married but don’t want to be single either.

Let me tell you about Manny (if you are new to STSG, I call all my guy friends Manny). He is a serial dater. I can’t even call him monogamous because he tends to let things flow without titles, juggle several women and pick the best one of the bunch, stays with her for a couple months then opts out. Within days he is seeing someone new.

For the past three years he’s been in a relationship. Everyone thought this is it. This was the woman that was going to turn him into an honest man. I checked my e-mail and text from him expecting it to say “I’m engaged”. Never happened. They broke up and I didn’t find out until I ran into him at a club, drunk and sandwiched between two women.

Two weeks later, he tells me he’s off the market and settling in nicely with a great new woman.

“How are you already involved? The ink on the break up papers ain’t even dry yet.”

“I know but I was ready to move on. I love my ex and she is great. Didn’t have a problem with her or our relationship.”

“You broke up with her and now you have someone else.”

“I don’t want to be single so I found someone new.”

“It’s just that easy, huh?”

“Yup. I’m lucky. I meet great women all the time.”

“It’s funny. You say you don’t want to be single but you don’t want to be married either. I’ve meet these women you get involved with and the sad thing is none of them know your pattern. They don’t know they have an expiration date stamped on their forehead. All your friends know it but they don’t.”

“Don’t feel sorry for me. I like the newness of relationships. I like having someone trying to impress and please me. With marriage it is going to get old and I’ll have to really work. I’m not saying I won’t get married but dating satisfies all my needs for now.”

I’m not hating on Manny’s way of life but I do feel sorry for the countless women who think they’ve hit the jackpot. He’s a great guy, handsome, smart, employed, stable. He possesses all the qualities a woman would want in a husband but he’ll never be theirs. It’s like he’s out on loan. After a couple months you have to return him so the next woman waiting patiently in line can have her turn.

Manny is going to be 60 years old, dressing sharp talking about “SG, let me introduce you to my new girlfriend.” SMH!

- SG